(Closed) Looking Back, What Could You Have Done Without on Your Wedding Day?

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Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley

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@mjoyelle:  I didn’t do programs either and I don’t think anybody missed them!

Post # 63
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We definitely didn’t need favors.

I actually think our uplighting and blue chiavari chairs made the whole room pop with an amazing energy. I wouldn’t have skimped on decor.

That’s all I would have given up, haha. I really loved how our wedding looked! We didn’t do “I spy” or bathroom baskets or other things everyone here regretted.

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think I was the only person who used the ladies’ bathroom basket.

I think the guys may have over-done it on the alcohol shopping spree.  We provided our own liquor, which was AWESOME, and they had a shopping list broken down by alcohol type, and I don’t know this for sure, but my guess is they got a little excited about having sooooo much money to spend on booze, and grabbed a few extra whiskey, rum, gin bottles.  6 months later and we still have extra rum.

We cut corners pretty much everywhere except for food and drink, and that’s what people enjoyed the most, so I was pretty satifsfied that we didn’t overspend.

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@oracle:  I am with you.. I also enjoy programs.. Helps me follow along and I have kept every program from the weddings I have been to. Plus,  they were not expensive.. I bought a DIY kit from Michaels (with coupons, 200 was 20 dollars) and had the program printed at Staples (150 for 28) so for $48, well worth it in my opinion. I think programs also depends on who you are inviting.. Older guests (And family) especially enjoy them because they like to keep them. We are having A LOT of family (around 80 out of our 130 guests) so they will appreciate them.

We are 2 weeks out and I am still debating Welcome Bags and bathroom baskets. I actually have everything I would need for bathroom baskets (flossers, spray on deodorant, ibuprofin, pepto tabs, hairspray, gum and mints, tampons, pads and liners, lotion, safety pins, body spray, bobby pins and a lint brush).. This is just stuff I have collected and can keep to use for myself if I decide.. I am just not sure if the stuff will even get touched.. Welcome bags, I considered doing (just having maps, area information, a few water bottles and snacks) but we are only having about 10 out of town guests who are staying the night (a lot of our guests live within a 2 hour radius and since easter is the next day, they are driving home that night) so I am not sure I want to do it for just 10 people… 

We are not doing any fancy chairs, furniture, uplighting or flowers.. We bulk ordered the centerpieces (hydrangeas and coral daisys) from the florist and will cost us about $6 per centerpiece for flowers (other centerpiece expenses includes mirror tiles, frames, gems, and votive candle/holders). I think total our centerpieces are like $10 each (for 18 tables). We did order bouquets, bouts, coursages from the florist. One thing we did spend a little extra on was linens.. Standard linens was included in our price (white tablecloths with ANY color napkin). I wanted navy tablecloths so we spent $100 upgrading.. Is it worth it? I’ll let ya know in 2 weeks! 

Post # 66
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Busy Beekeeper

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@Brooklyn55:  since you already have all the stuff for the bathroom basket, I say: put it out.  If it doesn’t get touched (like mine) you will still just have the stuff ๐Ÿ™‚

I think you scored with your $100 linen upgrade! ๐Ÿ™‚  

As for welcome bags – I’ve never received one, but I know I would LOVE it.  So, if you can pull it off, I’m sure those 10 will remember your kind gesture for a long time to come! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Commenting to follow!

I do remember my sister saying she wouldn’t do favors if she could do it all over again.  My parents still have a gazillion little boxes filled with Jordan almonds just sitting at their house …4 years later.  Haha

Post # 68
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Sugar bee

I don’t care about programs at all. We didn’t have them. I don’t miss them at other people’s weddings. Though I will admit that I appreciate them when the ceremony is reallllly long and involves lots of sitting/standing/singing etc, but that’s so I can be grateful when it’s getting near the end. I love the meaningful, personal parts of the ceremony but when there are tons of prayers and hymns I’m bored.

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is so useful to me!! Definitely going to check on this one later. Thanks to all the ladies that have contributed so far!

Post # 70
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Unless you have really particular guests, I think you could cut out a LOT of stuff and no one would necessarily “miss” it. I’ve been to weddings that didn’t have favors and didn’t care. I mean, I noticed because I like those kinds of things, but I don’t mind when they DON’T have favors. Why do I NEED a bag of Jordan almonds? I don’t. I’ve loved when there was a bathroom basket, but haven’t even noticed when there wasn’t. And welcome bags are great… but if it was just a map of the immediate area and a bag of trail mix I’d be totally psyched. When it’s been overboard (you’ve seen ’em- tote bags full of a million snacks and personalized waterbottles and random kitsch) it’s just made me wonder how much the couple spent on the wedding!

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

following this post….great ideas!!!

my wedding is in october so far we are avoiding

– band (DJ only)

– wedding favours

– no flowers in the church or anywhere (only doing bouquets)

– unsure about programs

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@oracle:  Yea that makes sense since I already have the stuff.. Even if it just helps one person out, then I guess its worth it! And yes, I think the linen upgrade was worth it ๐Ÿ™‚ My Fiance didn’t understand but I think colored table clothes add SO much.. I mean white looks great if you do extravangent centerpieces or buy runners but that would have ended up costing us well over $100! 

About the welcome bags.. I think I would enjoy them as well.. So we may just do them. I saw these super cute reusable grocery bag type things at Michaels that are in our wedding colors. They were like 1.00 each to.. I may get those and just fill them with some snack/beverage goodies and some local information.

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

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@TaurianDoll:  Another suggestion for videographer.  I went on craigslist and found someone.  He’s legit and everything, but only started out 2 years ago.   I was able to look at his portfolio online and I LOVED his videos.  He is doing 9 1/2 with a single camera for only $450.  He said he’d add on a second one if we want for an extra $200.  Probably skipping the second camera though – it would be stationary, so we are just going to use our tripod and a friends camera for the second angle.  Also that doesn’t include editing.  We are planning to that on our own after the wedding – seems like a fun newlywed project.  

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Commenting to follow!

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

All of my husbands family! Lol

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We could’ve done with a basic one tier cake. It wasn’t a huge part of our night so we could’ve saved there.

We went for a middle of the road one (a copy of a really intricate cake) which I liked a lot but wasn’t perfect. With cakes I think you should either go big/all the way or go home.

Other than that there’s nothing we would have “given up” because all of the hard work and details contributed to making our day so beautiful and memorable.

Oh and maybe my dress. I loved it but the atmosphere of the reception was more important to me than the dress looking back. Maybe we could’ve spent the money decking out the whole place in flowers?

Do NOT cut back on the photographer or videographer ladies! They are such must haves – it’s all you have left to remember the day once it’s over

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