Post # 1
I didn’t know anything about weddings before I got engaged. As I learned about them, all sorts of things that I never even thought to care about started to matter a lot. Now that the wedding has been over for a few months, I find myself almost regretting the work I put into things that I have once again ceased to care about. Conversely, I find myself wishing for a do-over in some regards (I keep telling my husband we’re going to have a vow renewal someday so I get the chance). My wedding was one of the best days of my life, but if I could do it all over again, frankly, I would. I wouldn’t be so constrained by tradition this time and really think outside the box. Like, I can’t believe I almost let my mother talk me into matching bridesmaids shoes (so glad I didn’t…I don’t even remember what they wore).
Do any of you wish you could do it all again?
We’ve discussed before what we would spend less on, but how about the converse? In retrospect, what really ended up mattering to you about your wedding? If you could do it again, what do you wish you had put (more) time/thought/energy/money into? (Sorry there’s no "other" option; comment if your choice is something other than what’s listed here. Or just comment!)
Post # 3
My biggest regret was my craptastic photographer. I thought I did my homework (had a reference that I found independently) but she turned out to do a bad job and be kind of a jerk about it when we were unhappy.
I look at other brides’ wedding photos and I get upset that my pictures are so boring and sometime downright bad.
Those photos are your way of reliving the day and when I look at them, I have to work to feel anything more than sad that they turned out so poorly.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
there is an option i’d add — music. I’ve been to weddings with craptastic djs (like my brother’s… I wanted to kick the dj’s ass!). It can really make or break a wedding, so I’d recommend that brides put a lot of thought into that decision.
Post # 5
seriously my photographer was our best vendor! we didn’t hire a videographer so it was quite important to us to find a photog (http://www.yangphoto.com) who can tell our wedding story through his camera. we’re shelling out a lot of money for a 2 volume wedding album, but it’s totally worth it. the pictures are amazing!
Post # 6
Added an option for music/band/DJ (nixing favors…I think most would agree they are not of the pinnacle of importance).
Post # 7
Honestly the best part of our wedding was having everyone at the rehearsal party the night before. People had already met by the time the wedding rolled around and the camaraderie was greatly enhanced by this.
Post # 8
I loved my photographer but I wish I had thought more about the poses I wanted to capture. We have zero pictures of just the two of us looking at the camera.
Post # 9
I totally agree with salex19. We had a great photographer. I just didn’t give enough direction on what I wanted. I’m glad we had a photobooth because we got a lot of fun pictures from there that we didn’t get from our photographer.
Post # 10
I checked waaay too many of those boxes. And that is why I went $10000 over budget (and why I have no right to post on the Money board).
Post # 11
As much as everyone thought that my dress was so "WOW!!" I just didnt care that much! I like the compliments, I felt beuatiful and bridal, but it just wasnt a big deal to me that day. But having my wedding coordinator be the go-to person instead of me was PRICELESS!! As far as I knew, it all went smooth as pie! (I doubt that was the case, but I was blissfully unaware – Thanks Rachelle!) The other major difference maker was the DJ. He was great! He kept the dance floor packed with everyone from the twenty-something "kids" AND the 80 year old church elders. Everyone told us what a great time they had and that they hadnt had that much fun in such a long time. Priceless!
Those two things made the wedding day AMAZING. My 3rd thing that I wouldnt have changed for the world and would have sold a kidney for was the photographer (not that I had to – quite resonably priced actually)!! Rae Leytham was AMAZING and I am SOO glad for that decision. EEK! I’m going to go look at photos again. 🙂