- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I was thinking back on our July wedding today, and on what was and wasn’t worth the time and money for the big day. I don’t know if one can ever know what money spent is going to make a digfference, but here’s what I learned in retrospect. Maybe it will help all you other bees.
The dress: Not worth it. Curse you Say Yes to the Dress for brainwashing me! Okay, the dress was awesome, and I got a sample dress so it was a third of the regular price, but it was still a lot of money, so I think I woulda coulda shoulda spent less than I did. (sidenote: My shoes were from Payless and I am so glad I didn’t get a fancy pair! They were comfortable, and with all the dirt in the forest, I would have wrecked a more expensive pair)
The venue: Worth it. Our venue was pretty cheap, but the down side was that it was all outdoors and we were at the mercy of the elements. it was around 90 degrees on the wedding day, so pretty hot, but luckily it was all shaded. Not perfectly ideal, but I still think it was so us that I wouldn’t have changed it.
The food: Worth it. We had an awesome mobile brick oven and they cranked out delicious food. We went buffet style which helped cut down the costs, and it was all local and fresh ingredients. Yum. Instead of cake, we had some very cool donuts. They ended up being pretty pricey, but this was mostly because I waaay over estimated how many we needed, so that was my fault. Even so, it was still cheaper than a fancy cake woulda been.
Candy buffet: Not worth it. Oh how it pains me to say this! I loooove candy. Love it. I have so many cavities from my sugar addiction. But the truth is, with the donuts already out, on such a hot day- people coulda lived without it. Maybe a small amount woulda sufficed. I thought it looked awesome, and I loved picking out all the candy, but it was a lot of time and money that people didn’t really notice. I think the lesson here was not to overkill something by doing two of something when one would do. One sugar hit per party. ALTHOUGH, we had some wax mustaches and lips that people flipped over, so that was cool.
Photographer: Super worth it. Our photographer was from all the way across the country. (here’s her recap of our day on her website) These pics are hers. I prioritized photography as one of our important budget items and that was definitely a smart choice. They turned out great, and she was low key, which was just right for our crowd. And she does photos with a creative eye, which this artsy-farsty girl loved.
The band. Worth it? I wanted good music. Good music makes the party, and good live music can be amazing. I had seen these guys perform at a bat mitvah while working my side job catering, and I knew they were awesome. Unfortunately, our crowd was pretty nerdy (who am I kidding? VERY nerdy) and non-dancers are non-dancers. Plus it was during the day. So we had a hard time getting folks up to dance. BUT there was this awesome surpirise moment when some of our guests got them to start playing the Hora, and that was pretty epic. So I guess the verdict is the band is worth it if you know your guests are dancy types.
Speaking of dancing, we took dancing lessons. Worth it. This was surprising to me, because at 80 dollars a lesson, it was pretty pricey. But really it was great because it gave us a chance to connect, and tackle something new together. So maybe it was only sorta worth it for the wedding, but definitely worth it for us as a couple.
Photobooth: Worth it. We almost went DIY on this one, and I think it would have been okay if we did. In the end, we got such a good deal that it was worth it, but I know people sometimes spend a ton on photobooths. I say its worth it, IF you can do it on the cheap.
The million DIY touches: Worth it. These were all fun, and most of them I did with friends, so for me they translated into quality time I got to spend with friends and family. I did my own invites, spent a crazy amount of time on our escort chart, and a lot of other stuff too. But for me that stuff was the fun stuff. Even sewing the bojillian pillows I made was great- I got much better at sewing! If its not fun for you, I say its not worth it. I think it depends on your personality (and how much free time you have!)
To recap my recap, I’d say all my efforts to find deals really paid off, and the DIY stuff made a difference. I think we prioritized well, but there was a bit of overkill here and there. I probably overplanned a bit, and could have trimmed a few things here or there. I should have remembered to keep my crowd and the location in mind- you can’t have a late night feel in the middle of the day, and you can’t make an introvert dance all night. But I really enjoyed the fact that we spent the time to make the day our own, and I think guests enjoyed that our wedding was different than some that they’d been to in the past. I hope this helps future bees with their planning.
p.s. Oh and yes, the dress and candy jars are for sale if you’re interested!