(Closed) Looking for a home and hubby is driving me crazy!

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow that’s crazy, just hire someone to mow the dumb lawn or let it overgrow a bit, doubt anyone will care!

It’s so tough when you shoot everything down before looking at it in person or for stupid things like paint color that can be changed.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Tell him you’ll let him buy a ride on mower.  Most guys are suckers for those things 😛

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It sounds like you guys need to start a good list of what is acceptable and not acceptable.  If that one was too much land, say you won’t look at any property that is over that acreage unless its wooded.  If he says the bedrooms are too small, then say you won’t look at any houses with bedrooms that size or smaller. 

Sometimes lists help!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I enjoy riding mowing, I can think without having to concentrate on what I’m doing.  So I pop in some headphones and drift off onto a daydream.

I’d encourage him to write down things HE wants, then discuss any discrepancies and compromise.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

You could buy some cows or a goat to eat up all that grass!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@bluespurrs:I think you are giving him too many options. Ask him his top 2 or 3 requirements and find your house. Let him have final veto. Its either property A,B or C. End of discussion Darling Husband.

Post # 10
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds to me like he really doesn’t want to move at all. Is it someting you’ve both agreed on or is it only one of you thinking it’s a good idea?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It sounds like:

  1. You guys need to have an open, honest talk about what is really bothering him.  When we were looking for a house, my husband was very much the same as yours – finally it came out that he didn’t really feel ready.  We continued to look, but it took a couple more months for him to feel ready to make the financial commitment of owning a home and to fall in love with our place.
  2. You need to actually go to the houses you are looking at.  While you can sometimes tell immediately from a listing that a house is no way, no how, most of the time you can’t find the potential in a house unless you are in it.  For example, you could say no way to a house because it only has 2 bathrooms and you really wanted 3, but then go to the house and realize that the space and plumbing alignment, etc. would make it super easy to put in a third bath… or renovate the kitchen, or plant some trees, or whatever.  If you only look at listings, it’s really hard to fall in love with a place, which it sounds like your husband needs…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Do you really have 40+ cats? My husband complains about the TWO that we have!

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