(Closed) Looking for a silver lining

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not a mom but I can give you some silver linings if that’s ok 🙂

1. You’re a mom!!

2. You have your health and hopefully your baby is healthy. You might not be up and running at your normal pace but you’ll get there

3. You have a job to go back to

4. A DH who is probably SUPER happy to be a Dad and is supportive

5. You’re a mom!! 🙂

Post # 4
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

Well I’m not a momma yet but I looked at some of your pictures and you are a fine looking lady and have a beautiful baby. 

I told my hubby he would just have a good time with receiving one sided fun in times like that (but there’s always payback).  Like when the monthly visitor comes he makes sure to give me back massages and head scratches for all the attention he receives that I can’t partake in.

And as for muscles, I’m sure they will be built up in no time with all the baby lifting up and down.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hmmm… Silver lining, eh?  (We’ll leave out the actual baby bit since that’s obvious.) 

What about since you don’t get to have sex now you’re going to REALLY want it by the time you get to and so it’s going to be AMAZING?  Or maybe MightyHusband really likes the new boobs?  I know my husband is looking forward to that.  Then again, I don’t have much to start with!

No idea if that applies or not.  It’s kind of tricky coming up with things when you haven’t been there yet yourself! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, this is the part that I’m not looking forward to. Feeling like I look like a train wreck.  I don’t care if you’re freakin Heidi Klum or Cindy Crawford, no one has an ideal body or lady parts a few months after giving birth.

In the words of the great Axl Rose, you “need a little patience…” And that’s a bitter pill to swallow. You need time, but when life starts speeding up, it does get easier.

 After my youngest was born, and I got the okay from my dr, I was determined to tighten up my belly to look better than it did before I had her, and I totally did it. I had a “no muffin top” mantra that I lived by. I also think I have the greatest boobs thanks to my kids (fingers crossed that they hold up after this baby!). I have stretch marks, but once they faded, they don’t bother me, and I still wear a bikini.

 You will start to feel better, you will start to tighten up, you will get your energy back. And then, eventually, and it does take a while, sex will be awesome again. The silver lining will come, I promise! Hang in there!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Um, this might be totally gross, but the silver lining about the lochia is that it is your body’s way of getting rid of some of the excess fat and cholesterol, so at least you don’t have to work out or diet to lose that fat!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

You are being too hard on yourself.  It hasn’t even been that long, hon.  I’ve heard it takes most women at least 3 months but up to a year to get your body back.  What exercises have you been able to do?  If you own WTE…I was just reading this section last night about how you can start slow, with sample exercises.  HTH!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

This is something I’m dreading too…I’ve worked really hard to get my body into the shape it’s in, and I like it, and one of the reasons I’m happy to put off TTC for a while is because I’m not ready for it (or my whole life) to change yet!

My sister’s friend had a baby recently and has already started going to post partum fitness classes – is that an option for you? They do specialised ab work and other exercises like that, with everything modified and designed for new mums. Maybe it would be worth looking into – I know for me I would feel much better just knowing I was doing *something*!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@Mighty…I feel your pain with the PT test. I am worried about the 6 months to retest also. It seems a little unreasonable to me when you factor in that you really can’t even start running again for 6 weeks. I am a little luckier that my normal uniform is a flight suit which is a little more forgiving than the utility uniforms but I’m still thinking it will be quite a while before I will be comfortable in it. 

I’m sorry you are having a hard time with the body image issue. I don’t have any great words of advice since I’m sitting here at 5 weeks till my due date but I think you need to cut yourself a little slack. Keep working out and it will get there its just going to take time. 

Good luck!

 

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