(Closed) Looking for a voice of reason.

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
18627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agre with PP.  There are so many girls on here who had their BF pick out the ring and they really don’t liek it or even hate it.  The courting hasn’t begun yet, he gets to choose how to give you the ring you want!

Post # 5
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

The solution to your situation is to look at him and say, “I want you to pick it.” The down side is you have to be happy with anything he chooses.

 I’m the kind of person who is particular about jewelery.I chose and looked for rings because I knew if I had to wear it forever I wanted it to be “me.” (My husband tends to like things you can buy at the mall. I like different less mainstream  things- I totally sound like a hipster).

 Personally, I’d find three rings you love and have him choose between those. Give him the store or website name and leave the rest up to him- including the proposal if you’re doing a formal one (we ended up picking up my ring at the post office and he gave it to me with a big smile on his face. We went to lunch after to celebrate).

Post # 6
44 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally agree with Maureen… I knew that I wanted to feel suprised and I wanted it to be something that he picked for me.. But I went into that knowing that I would have to be happy (or learn to be) with whatever he picked.. You have to decide what’s important to you.. You can’t have both..  Luckily my fiance picked out something I absolutely love! I went online with him and educated him on ring lingo and styles… Gave him general examples of do’s and don’ts.. And then I let it go.. He totally caught me off guard when he proposed.. And it was wonderful.. If you want to be suprised, don’t set a deadline.. If you want more control over it then let him know ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My boyfriend and I discussed what I should get for a ring. We decided that diamond wasn’t really “us” and that a sapphire would be awesome. So I found all the specs that I wanted in a sapphire and he bought my stone. 

We then took my stone to several (pretty much every) jewelery store in a 50 Mile radius. He searched for the stores and told me which ones he wanted to go to, and we went together. It was actually pretty fun, we made several dates out of it. It was a lot of bonding time. Well, we found 5 or so rings that I really liked and that were in the price range, and then narrowed it down to about two. 

Now it’s his turn to pick what ring I get. I kinda liked the way we did it. There’s still an element of surprise, I get something I like, and he gets to pick it. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 11
375 posts
Helper bee

Originally I wanted to be surprised, too. But I’m also picky about my jewelry so I gave him some parameters (stone shape, metal preference, halo–that sort of thing). In the end, he had a favorite, we went to see it, he bought it today. And once it’s sized he’ll do the official asking and offering.

Was I disappointed because the ring wasn’t a surprise? I thought I’d be but I’m not. Pick what you want, tell him to get it for you and move on to the next chapter ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think its sweet that he wants you to have what you want, but if it is bothering you then tell him how you are feeling. If you have given him a base or guidelines of what you like then he should be able to take it from here if you want him to. 

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