(Closed) Looking for a way to word our Honeyfund?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 168
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@BelliniChic:  In case you hadn’t realized, this is an online discussion forum.  Clearly we all have some free time on our hands if we’re here.  But way to continue not keeping your posts germane.

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@cmbr:  Love it!

Post # 169
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@weddingmaven:  It is commonly stated on here that if you have no registry then people will understand you are asking for cash. 

Post # 170
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d love to see the ages of everyone who is for/ against a honeyfund.  People think it’s tacky because it’s not something they are used to yet.  In a few more years if will be no different than a registry.  I am 24 and I’ve had three friends use honeyfunds.  As a guest, I never heard one complaint about it and heard many compliments.  (Mostly from the younger crowd).

 

 

 

My family will be giving me gifts whether I ask for them or not, register or not, etc.  I don’t see how having a link to a honeyfund is any different than having a link to a registry.  People will get offended about anything. 

 

ETA:  I am not doing a honeyfund, but I know that my family and friends would be perfectly accepting either way, just as I would be for their weddings.

 

Post # 171
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@almostwebbee:  Can we say ageism?

Post # 172
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Buzzing bee

My primary social circle ranges from late 20s to early 40s.  No one in this circle has used a honeymoon registry or included specific requests for types of gifts on an invitation, insert, or wedding website.

And I have never complained about anything like this; I’ve only said, “That’s so interesting; I’ve never seen it before,” when asked, because it would be preposterous for me as a guest to say something that would upset the couple during the wedding itself, especially since what’s done is done.  I’m sure if you asked those couples or any other guests who overhead the conversation, they’d think I was complimenting it. 

Post # 173
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@julies1949:  Wow.  All I’m saying is that I think that younger crowds seem to be much more accepting of honeyfund registries from what I’ve seen. That doesn’t mean I’m prejudiced against people older than I am.  And I would be interested to see if age plays a role in feelings about this. I also think it depends on the norms of your social circle too.  

 

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@MarriedToMyWork:  When I say compliments I mean things like, “It’s so much nicer giving ____ + _____ a night out on their honeymoon.  It feels more personal than a microwave.”  and “I love the thought of being part of their honeymoon memories.”  Also, after one of the weddings when they sent pictures of the excursions they went on, “Loved the pictures ____ + _____ sent.  It’s so fun being part of that.”  

 

And if I heard someone say something was “interesting,” I would for sure NOT take it as a compliment. 

 

Post # 174
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@weddingmaven:  I disagree. I think that if you dislike honeyfunds then move on to a new thread where your advice is wanted. She didn’t care if you agree with them or not- she clearly already decided she will have a honeyfund. 

 

I just can’t get over how judgemental some of the ladies here are. To each their own! 

Post # 175
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ladies please keep in mind that personal attacks are against the TOS. let’s try and keep this one on track and help out the OP 🙂

Post # 176
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@almostwebbee:  We’re doing a honeyfund. I’m 28 and Fiance is 35. To be honest, we really weren’t going to register at all because we own our home and have lived here for a few years already. We don’t need the traditional stuff that might be found on a traditional registry. But, my parents were adamant that we have a registry and when I suggested the honeyfund idea they were on board right away. They think it is a really interesting idea, especially given my and FI’s situation.

Post # 177
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@weddingmaven:  +1

DH and I did not register and honestly did not expect gifts or cash of any kind. On our website under “Registry” (which I couldn’t delete since it was a templated part of the site) we just put “We have not registered any where and do not expect gifts.  Your love and attendance are enough for us.”

Why is it so hard to believe that people who don’t register are doing it without agenda?  Sheesh. We had 100 guests from 8 different countries spend a lot of $ and time to come here, that meant more to us than any hand mixer would.

@OP if it helps, I did have a few friends get married who directed guests to a registry for jet blue points. They just said “We became a couple while on a roadtrip and we’ve been traveling ever since.  Help us continue our love of travel by transferring or buying JetBlue points.”

Post # 178
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Helper bee

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@BelliniChic:  I’m so glad I didn’t see this earlier. This is the first time anyone has pointed this out. It’s amazing the 100+ guests at our wedding didnt notice. Or maybe they were just too polite to say something. In any event this post wasnt even directed at you, I complimented one person and replied directly to her in doing so. Next time I will refrain from doing so or just PM the person. Your condescion, and quite frankly this thread, is just annoying and making me wish I hadn’t bothered to try and be nice in the first place. 

Post # 179
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@hallie9713:  I am quite sure that because it was next to the quilt squares your guests were able to figure it out. Nevertheless the embroidery has a g where a q should be.

It’s no big deal. Your Grandmother made a mistake. But you didn’t need to jump all over the Bee who pointed out the error.

Post # 180
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@hallie9713:  Sorry you’re getting so much shit. The freaking letter looks like a q to me even if the loop swings ever so slightly to the left… it’s obvious that it curves back and connects to the top portion the way a q does, and it very different from the g. I promise (most) bees are not normally this petty and rude. Try not to let it put you off. 

 

Post # 181
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Helper bee

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@MexiPino:  Thank you!! I agree, and don’t think my aunt made a mistake. Fonts vary so much these days anyway and some even “appear” incorrect, but are simply stylized 🙂 I’m going to move on from this issue/thread, but wont let impact bee-pride. 🙂

 

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