(Closed) Looking for a way to word our Honeyfund?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 107
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Here’s my suggestion for a cute way of asking for cash ๐Ÿ™‚

 

We’re throwing a party we can’t afford

And having you here, we think is a chore!

An honor for you, we think it should be

For us to invite you, to come and see

The wedding we’ve planned for months in advance

You should be so thrilled we will let you dance!

 

I know that this poem may be quite rude

And the motives behind it are quite crude!

But why should we care, ’cause it’s our big day

In so many words we just want to say

Give us the green, money, moolah, or dough

We really don’t care if you stay or go!

 

Please fund our life choices with cold hard cash

And if you critique us, ugh, you’re such trash!

We’re just so relaxed with others’ money

And don’t you think that is rather funny?

So write us a check and be on your way

We’ve got such fun planned for which you can pay.

 

Post # 108
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We had a honeyfund and it was the greatest! We got so many gifts, we loved it! We did a traditional registry for the etiquette freaks (and so my aunts could give me towels and shit at my shower). We had a really tacky little poem, but since most of our folk were 50 or older, they thought it was “just the most darling little poem!”

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Post # 109
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Buzzing bee

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@Taimane:  +1.  Whenever I read any proclamation about how much my presence is valued the first thing that comes to mind is that the couple must think I am an idiot, which obviously does not make me feel like a valued or honored guest.

When the sentiment is expressed in poetic form, I can only conclude that the couple not only think I am stupid, but also think little of my taste.

Post # 110
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@strawberriesandcream:  That’s perfect!

 

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@icanhearyousmile:  I’m one of those “50 and older folk”, and I doubt I would have thought your little poem was “darling”. Ugh.

Post # 112
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think your wording sounds fine.  

Post # 113
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

90% of you talking about how obnoxious it is for the OP to ask for money will be posting on here a few weeks after your wedding, indignant that “Aunt Sarah didn’t cover her plate.”  The self righteousness on this thread is sickening.

Post # 114
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@namarie:  I know! This is one of the most ridiculous threads I’ve seen. Reading all this has made me consider deleting my Bee account. I don’t know why I would need information/ opinions from such miserable and angry people. Poor OP is probably running for the hills!

 

Post # 115
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Buzzing bee

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@namarie:  I know that many of the people objecting on this thread are also first to the barricades to argue against “cover your plate” demands too.  I would never have that expectation as I ensure that I can afford to host before I send out invitations.

Post # 117
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

OP, I’m so sorry if the insanity in this thread has completely turned you off from WB. Usually it’s a lovely place :-/ In any case, I think your wording is completely fine and good luck with your India plans! It sounds like it’ll be amazing ๐Ÿ™‚

 

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@Mademoiselle-G:  I’m with both of you. Some of the responses on this thread are seriously upsetting.

Post # 118
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@namarie:  Those who find it crass to ask guests for cash will probably also find the notion that one should “cover their plate” crass as well.  I think the point people are trying to get across is that there is no nice or polite way to ask something that’s impolite and not nice.

Post # 119
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

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@namarie:  nope, I honestly couldn’t care less if anyone Gabe us a gift. We have no registry and don’t want anything from our guests. 

Post # 120
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Holy WOW.  This thread is ridiculous.  I am a young bee, who is not doing a honeyfund, but I’d just like to say that I think they are awesome!  Some of our friends did one last spring, and most everyone I talked to was happy to give an excursion as a gift instead of a toaster oven.  I think people who find honeyfunds tacky are so silly.  

The way my wedding is, most everyone will give a gift, whether I register or not.  So, why is it different for them to give me a $50 toaster instead of a $50 excursion on my honeymoon?  Honeyfund is becoming more and more popular.  Please do not let these bees influence you away from your idea.  You know what your family and friends will expect/ appreciate. Decide on your registry based on your guests, not based on women on the bee! 

Post # 121
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Meh, it’s the 21st century.  Honeyfunds are perfectly fine and not any ruder than a registry full of gift suggestions.  Sending out labeled money envelopes in the invitation, on the other hand…   o_O

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@MarriedToMyWork:  Usually I respect your opinion quite a lot – but I wrote on our website that our guests’ presence was the only thing that mattered, and I really meant it.  We had people come from all over the country to the middle of nowhere, Wyoming for our wedding, which entails either hours to DAYS of driving, or a flight plus a drive.  It’s a serious committment to get there, both in terms of time and finances.

Plenty of people came to the wedding but gave us either very modest gifts or nothing at all, and my thought was “GOOD!  They took me seriously that their presence was really what mattered.”  I would so rather have had them there with no gift, than have had them stay home and send $200 checks each.

But, given the number of posts bitching about “my asshole guests who didn’t cover their plate”, etc, I could see why you’d think otherwise….

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