Post # 1
Regular bee, going anon. Really upset and just need to vent. I’ll try not to ramble on.
Long story short, one of the bridesmaids caused SO much drama right up until 2 days before the wedding. I just wanted her there so I didn’t say anything, I thought things would be okay. SO many people suggested I kick her out (even my mom) but she’s been a friend for a long time and my heart wanted her there. But then her behaviour at the wedding just shocked me.
-She RSVP’d yes for her Fiance and he didn’t show up. We had to pay for his plate. She made an excuse about him working, but I know his job and he doesn’t work on a Saturday night. (Not that it’s all about money but we paid $122 per plate!)
-She left at 10pm. The dancing didn’t even start until 9:15pm.
-When she said goodbye to me, my Fiance, another bridesmaid and my mom she made it sound like it was a permanent goodbye. I thought it was odd but didn’t realize how odd until the others came up to ask me about their odd goodbyes.
-She no-gifted. She simply gave me a card, with a typed message inside wishing me a good life. Usually she signs it with Love, hername this just had her name.
I sent her a message a few days ago, saying that I think things aren’t good between us but that our friendship means a lot to me and I want to fix it. I asked if we could get together and she won’t respond.
Everyone I’ve talked to said that she’s selfish and that her actions at the wedding are hurtful. They all say I have been a great friend (for over 15 years) and that I have put in enough effort to keep the friendship.
I guess I’m just hurt.
Post # 3
Oh no, that must hurt you so badly! I’m sorry your friend is treating you this way. However, I think you’ve done the right thing by reaching out to her. If she doesn’t respond, I don’t see what else you can really do. Actions speak louder than words.
Maybe this relationship has run its course and you will be better off without a “friend” who treats you poorly.
Post # 4
You say she caused drama, can I ask how it started? Like was she just being psycho or was there some kind of conflict between the two of you or someone close to you that could have set this off?
Sorry this happened to you, it sucks to lose a friend.
Post # 5
My advice: try to move on and understand she isn’t worthy of your friendship. Her actions say everything about her, and nothing about you. I’m sorry she did this to you on your wedding day, of all days. It sounds like she’s got major issues.
Post # 6
This really sucks! Sorry to hear about all the drama and trouble. It’s very hard to let go of a friend. It sounds like she’s trouble, and you deserve better than to have a toxic person in your life.
Post # 7
That’s really odd….why all of this surounding your wedding…weddings make people crazy.
Post # 8
Sometimes friendships just end and you have to realize it and let that person go.
Post # 9
Don’t be hurt, she’s a weirdo that took the time to type something in a greeting card….anyone else freaked out by that?
Post # 10
@LaCroix: The jist is that she wasn’t showing up to anything, she said her life was so busy. So I said really nicely that if life was too busy and she couldn’t be part of the wedding I would understand. I told her that I wanted her to be part of the big day but that whatever she decided I would not be hurt. She seemed totally fine, just said oh no I wouldn’t miss it for anything. Things were fine for a few months, though I rarely saw her because of how busy she is, but we would message back and forth.
2 days before the wedding, after ignoring me for over a week, she finally says that I hurt her feelings way back. (She also complained to another bridesmaid the same day that I didn’t invite her to anything. SO confused on that one!) So I said I was sorry if I hurt her feelings, not my intention and that I love her and want her to share my special day. Everything was fine. Until the wedding when she left early and all the stuff mentioned above.
Post # 11
@Nona99: I was shocked, it was typed on a computer and cut out and glued in LOL
Thanks for everyone being understanding. I feel like I have tried really hard but a part of me feels like maybe it’s all my fault?
Post # 12
@AnoneeBee812: HA, that’s something my crazy grandma would do! I can’t think of anything a person can do that wouls justify such silliness…she’s engaged, maybe she’s got a case of the bridal crazies…don’t sweat it!
Post # 13
@AnoneeBee812: Okay, she’s DEFINITELY all in the wrong here. She sounds toxic so I’d let her go, she does not deserve your friendship.