(Closed) Looking for Advice – Marital Rape and Affair – But I want to make it work!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 112
5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

travelingbee3 :  

So after Todd “legitimate rape” Aiken coined the term “legitimate rape”, the republicans decided it was time to stop talking about what was and wasn’t rape.

I suggest you do the same.

Post # 113
5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

bumblebug : 

Alcohol, duh. If the man is drunk, they say it was the fault of the alcohol. If the woman was drunk, it was the woman’s fault for drinking the alcohol.

”real rape” I’m so disgusted right now 

Post # 115
5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

travelingbee3 :  “ I don’t feel like my husband getting drunk and being pushy during sex qualifies as rape.“


Not real rape??


When we got back to the hotel room he forced himself on me. (As I said, the romantic side of our relationship was suffering). Anyways, I was in pain, I was crying, and I was yelling at him to stop … but he didn’t.“

Can husbands not rape or something? Because that sounds like rape to me. 

Post # 116
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Sansa85 :  thanks for suggesting I stop talking about something I already said I was done talking about. Youre a real visionary 

Post # 117
218 posts
Helper bee

wildflowerz : ” travelingbee3 :  But so what if it is a made up story?  Compare the risk in offering comfort and support to a fiction to the risk in casting doubt on a victim in need…”


To piggyback off of this, even if the OP was just a troll with a story (which I wholeheartedly believe she is not), would it not still be important to give sound advice in the event that someone who IS in a similar situation searching online for advice?  They need to hear that its not their fault, not be doubted and told tgeir abuser is right. 



I’m sorry for this shitshow, OP. I hope you’reable to separated the helpful comments and take them to heart. These ladies really do care. 

Post # 118
5563 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

Todd “Legitimate Rape” Akin

Post # 119
1415 posts
Bumble bee

travelingbee3 :  She means forever and in real life too because your ideas and opinions don’t match reality

Post # 120
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Some of the responses here are absolutely repulsive!

(Only a handful of bees)

Think of the “Me Too” campaign and how long it took for some victims to speak up. Years in most cases and why everyone asks? Because of ignorant comments from women much like some posted on this very thread. 

Shame on you.

Post # 121
946 posts
Busy bee

YOOOOOO, let me first say OP I’m sooo sorry that any of this happened to you. I pray you get some mental, emotional and physical safety because ANYONE who feels rape in or out of marriage is normal needs to be vapored off the face of the earth. My prayers are with you no matter what decision you decide to make. ~Namaste.

With that beingsaid….I was oh too happy to be posting again because I’ve just recently endured a traumatic death with my father but some of these comments…IS THE SHIT THAT MAKES ME STAY AWAY. I sincerely wonder where some people’s thought process comes from. 

Post # 124
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

pbubs :  unfortunately liberals can be like Janni too because they’re not radical/intersectional

Post # 126
46188 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2021 - City, State

This thread is being closed.   I’ll be reviewing the contents.

Guys, please be kinder to each other.  It’s OK to disagree, but please put more thought into how you say things.



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