Post # 1
I have kind of an awkward situation with my best friend (male) and would like some advice! My mother noticed that he seemed off at our recent wedding (not his usual friendly, cheerful self) so she asked him if he was okay and they had a light-hearted discussion about me and my husband and the wedding day in general…. Then he started on how he is really happy for me, but that I made a mistake and married the wrong man and told my mom that he’s been in love with me for years. I should mention that we have never had any kind of romantic involvement, nor have I had any feelings for him… I have also never had the feeling that he wanted to be anything more than friends with me in all of the years I’ve known him. So this came as a complete shock. Since the wedding things have gone on as normal and he has not mentioned the discussion with my mom to anyone again. I have not talked to my friend about it and I have not told my husband either… and I am not sure if I should. He and my husband are very good friends themselves, hence why he was a groomsman in our wedding. They golf together, go for drinks, etc… I’m afraid that he might bring it up to my husband and I don’t want to cause any awkwardness between the 3 of us or hurt our friendship (or theirs). Should I just ignore what he said and hope things go on as normal or should I address the situation?
Post # 2
This is such a tough one since he and your husband are friends too. Personally, I wouldn’t say anything. He didn’t approach you with it, he approached your mother. Clearly he was emotional around the time of the wedding, possibly stressed if he was involved with arrangements (and was he tipsy when they had the conversation?). I know it will be hard not to think about, but unless he brings it up with you directly, leave it be.
As as for telling your husband, that’s your call. I don’t know what the answer is. I would hate to keep secrets from my partner, but you could end up ruining their friendship and your own if your husband reacts badly (which I would do, tbh, in his shoes). Frankly, your friend was silly telling your mother, and she definitely should never have told you. What does it achieve? Still, what’s done is done, and you married the man you love. Let the rest go.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
I think I’d let it go. Although it’s a bit low on his part to have said anything – what did he hope to achieve? It doesn’t seem like any harm has been done so I would not mention it.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say anything. Ultimately, it would just embarrass your friend ( as you are now married and clearly can’t start anything), hurt your husbands feelings, and make things awkward with your husband and his friend. There’s really nothing that can come out of it to be honest. Ask yourself, “What’s the point?” With time hopefully your friend will meet the woman of his dreams and you could all be friends.
Post # 5
I legit could have written this post. Every detail! So weird.
I ignored what he said (it was to a friend, not my mom though) and just pretended it never happened. I casually talked about it with my Darling Husband once and he was like “um, you didn’t know he felt that way? It’s been obvious since I met you.” So I was the only one who didn’t know.
Things are okay with the two of them still, but part of that could be that the friend is now engaged to a lovely young lady (who does NOT like me). Idk. We hang out maybe once a month, so it’s not like we’re around each other all the time. The whole thing is weird but we just moved forward and things have been okay thus far. Hahaha.
Post # 6
I would pretend you don’t know about it. I don’t know what he thought telling your mum at your wedding (maybe just a bit tipsy and emotional and it all just poured out?) or what your mum thought telling you would achieve.