Post # 1
Fiance and I are getting married two months after graduation. Because of this, my mom is saying we shouldn’t send out graduation announcements or have a party or anything because it will be too close to the wedding and it would just be too many parties because she wants us to have a household shower and my bridal shower.
What do you all think? Would graduation announcements be appropriate? I’m actually kinda bummed out over this. I’m getting a pretty respectable degree, and did it on time. Dang it, I am proud of this degree. And it just doesn’t seem right to me that we had a big party when I graduated high school, and we’re not doing anything after I worked my butt off at college these last 4 years.
Post # 3
@MiraJo: I’m gradutating within a couple of days of getting married. I’m graduating on May 14th and getting married May 19th. I’m not having a graduation party as of right now because it just doesn’t make sense because it is so close to the wedding. I didn’t even think about it until now.
I have to agree with your mom in this case.
Post # 4
I’m graduating (masters) May 6 and getting married July 6. Showers April 13 and June 1, my birthday was March 20… I felt like I would have been having a party every month.
I am having a small get together for my graduation because I didn’t when I got my bachelors degree, and my parents really want to do something.
So what should you do? I think send those announcements! Host a casual get together.
I really regretted not celebrating when I recieved my bachelors.
It’s a different party than a wedding. Graduation celebrates your accomplishments and abilities, it celebrates your hard work. A wedding celebrates many wonderful and important things, but it’s not an accomplishment to get married.
Post # 5
I’m graduating on May 18th and the wedding is June 7th. I agree that any kind of party wouldn’t be right so close to the wedding, but sending announcements wouldn’t be that bad. We will probably go out to dinner with my parents and some family members always send cards for graduations but I would feel selfish doing anything more.
Post # 6
@MiraJo: I think having a big party probably isn’t necessary, just have a small get together with your immediate family. I don’t see why you couldn’t send out graduation announcements, though.
Post # 7
@MiraJo: I am getting married about a month after graduation and because its a Destination Wedding, I really didn’t want to make my graduation a big deal because I don’t want it to look like I want them to get me a gift. I think your close family are the only people who care much about your graduation. My parents, siblings and grandparents will be taking me out to eat though.
Post # 8
I’m graduating on May 3rd, 2014 and getting married on the 17th. I am not having a graduation party or sending announcements. I didn’t do either of those things for my high school graduation either though so it doesn’t bother me at all.
I think if you had something casual it would be totally fine!
Post # 9
@MiraJo: I am graduating from my master’s program May 2nd and wedding May 4th…the bridal shower is April 28th (really close!) and therefore I’m not sending out announcements or having a party… there really just isn’t any time!
Post # 10
Graduating two weeks before our wedding. We’re not doing anything special for graduation, other than the ceremony. FH’s school graduates a week after mine does, so we’re cutting it really close.
Post # 11
I’m graduating 1 month before the wedding. We are sending graduation announcements to my grandparents only (because I am speaking at graduation and they will want to come) I agree with your mom that it might feel like too much in a short amount of time for the others
I especially dont want it to look like a gift grab. I dont expect anyone to send me graduation checks with the wedding so close! I figure I can share the good news about my degree at the wedding (although they all know via word of mouth anyway)
Post # 12
Just to clarify, I don’t necessarily want to have a big party for this graduation, or expect a lot of extra gifts. I just want to do something I guess. IDK, I compared it to my big high school graduation because graduating from highs school was a big deal, but graduating from college just seems to be meh. Like even just when I see someone from back home, we get to talking and I tell them I’m graduating they’re like “Oh, cool”. And only one of my parents are coming to my graduation because my sister has a track meet the same day
Post # 13
If you were getting married two weeks after graduation, that would be one thing. But two months! Throw a party if you like. People don’t have to come. If a party makes you happy, do it.
Post # 14
I’m graduating with my MD 1 month after the wedding, with my bridal shower/bachelorette likely 1 month or so before the wedding. I’m not planning on having a grad party, but my family and my fiance’s parents will likely go out to dinner afterwards. To be honest, that’s pretty much what would happen regardless of when the wedding was. I never thought about graduation announcements – I figured people who know me will know I’m finishing my degree! I guess to me my degree is a big deal to me because I’ve worked/am working so hard on it, but I don’t expect a celebration for it.
ETA: I think you should whatever you want, but maybe with all the parties already going on, have it be a little smaller/less formal!
Post # 15
We’re both graduating a little less than a month before our wedding. I’m not having a graduation party or anything. I’m also not going to my graduation ceremony…too long and boring. 😛 I’m sure my parents will take me to dinner or something!
Post # 16
I’m getting married in May and graduating in June… I had a baptism/birthday dinner at the beginning of the month and just had my shower and my stagette is coming up this weekend. To me I feel like we’ve had so many nice celebrations I don’t feel like I want to celebrate my graduation. But I totally understand if you do, so why not?
You could send announcements to everyone and maybe celebrate with a different set of people than will be at the wedding? Like school friends with close family or something? Or even just have a nice family dinner to celebrate. I kind of get what your parents might think about inviting the entire whole extended family to two close parties if its a difficult location or lots of young kids or something. You can just say no presents. If you don’t feel like they’re doing enough for you and is important to you, I would recommend celebrating with other graduating friends.