(Closed) Looking for emotional support

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You’ll get through!!! Can’t tell you how many baby gifts I bought/made for others during our 13 cycles trying!! Now that I an KU it’s like a wave of calm has overcome me… Don’t worry, it will happen!!

Post # 4
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@graygodess20:  I am so sorry. I don’t know if I have much to offer to make you feel better but just want you to know you’re not alone!! I am going through the same thing, in my 7th cycle at the TWW. I am refusing to even think about the possibility of being pregnant because I just have these negative feelings. And it is happening all around me too. My twin sister is getting ready to deliver in a few weeks, it only took her 2 cycles, and the same with a good friend of mine who just found out she is pregnant with her 3rd (and between her and her husband they have 6!) So I totally know the feeling. All I can say is our time will come, it has to! I think it is just easier for others and happens sooner. Which sucks. 

Post # 5
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

Oh honey, I hear you. It took us a year to get our sticky baby. It seemed like my sister’s friends were sneezing and getting pregnant without trying (no seriously, 4/5 babies were oopsies, not planned). Here I am married and stable and trying to pregnant and my sister’s friends are having one night stands and getting knocked up. While I’m always happy for new life coming into the world, it was heartbreaking to watch seemingly everyone else get the one thing I want more than the world, and it felt like they weren’t even asking for it. Just keep the faith that it will happen and your time will come!!

Post # 6
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Right there with you. I don’t really know how we’re supposed to make it “feel better”, everybody just says to “enjoy the process!” or “Your time will come, be patient.” or “it hasn’t really been THAT long…”

But, hey. It’s a huge thing, manifested ONLY by changes in YOUR body, and something you have very minimal control over. You’re allowed to be pissed, you’re allowed to be sad, and sometimes, you are allowed to be downright angry.

It’s okay.

And I’m really sorry you are feeling this way.

Post # 8
2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@graygodess20:  Have you joined the 6+ TTC  thread? I was hesitant to join but it really helped me. I felt like in real life I didn’t have anyone to talk to but those ladies really helped. 

Post # 10
11110 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@graygodess20: Embrace their gift. I know it’s hard, a lot of people I know are pregnant and I would put it down to the time in our lives. Don’t let it stress you and I echo @phoebephoebo: words as I’ve learnt so much joining the TTC threads and it’s great support as well as comforting.

Post # 11
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aww honey! I am in the same boat as you. I know how you feel. People everywhere are getting preggo, especially one who are not even trying! It sucks, I know.

What I do to keep my spirits up is try VERY, VERY HARD (and I have succeeded) to not do any kind of early testing during TWW. It helps me build patience that I didn’t know I had. It’s VERY HARD but I am doing it.

I also am making sure that I have enough iron intake. And I haven’t worked out in a while so I will re start that. (Sometime in the next few weeks. Not right now. Lol! But I WILL.)

I am saving up for a baby. We have a ‘baby fund’. So whenever I am not preggo, I take some from it and treat myself. Maybe to some home decor. Maybe to study and get some more certifications. I figure that now I have all this time to myself which I can invest in myself 100% and upgrade myself AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. With baby it will just not be possible. And I know this will greatly increase my earning potential as well. So that also keeps me going.

I am here for you! Smile

Post # 12
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

HUGSSS! Please know you are absolutely not alone.  I’m about to get AF on cycle 5 too – its such a horrible horrible feeling 🙁  Allow yourself sometime each cycle to be mad about how much it sucks.

Post # 13
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

ahhh darling! Take it easy on yourself, so not focus in this too long. 🙂 there will always be those couples who get pregnant by sharing the same soap, lol. took us 5-6 cycles while another couple we know who already have two kids, got pregnant with their third as Soon as they stopped BC. I kinda think it’s cute and funny they get pregnant so easily and quickly! Wasn’t so easy and quick for us but when it did happen, boy oh boy what a joy to find out we’re having twins. One if the reasons I kept out TTC journey a secret was because of those two and others around us who get pregnant exactly when they want to. 

totally understand your sadness which is probably mostly just dissapointment that your time isn’t here yet. It will be though! Do whatever it takes to cheer yourself back up, and have a good weekend with your husband!

Post # 14
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I could have written your post!  Went to a party recently and was surrounded by noticeable baby bumps and newborns.  I think it’s always harder when you know they weren’t even trying that long!  (As was the case of one of the couples at the party I went to!)   Sigh, well I just posted a similar vent so I wish I had better advice to give, but know that you’re not alone in your feelings.  FX for you, hun! 

Post # 15
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@graygodess20:  Oh honey its ok, I completely understand!

As soon as my husband and I started trying, after the first monthm my health hit a nosedive, and we had to put our plans on hold… I’m getting impatient waiting for my health to improve, but I know I have to be positive and itll be worth it when I come out of the other side!

In that three months, my facebook went from almost entirely kid-free to all of a sudden, everyone is annoucning that they’re pregnant…! 

it can be frustrating, hang in there, postive thoughts! I’ll send you all of the good vibes I have! 

Post # 16
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s so normal! Don’t feel bad – your time

will come! It seems like everyone around you will get pregnant while you are trying – but it will be your turn soon too! It took us 8

months 🙂

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