Post # 1
Hello bees! I’m curious how you would word this:
We are doing RSVP’s online on our wedding website. Figure it’s easiest to have everything in one place so all the info for our wedding will be there too. Our reception will be ending at 9pm to accommodate the younger/older folks who will be coming however we are planning on continuing the party in another part of the venue. Here’s where it gets a little tricky. Our budget doesn’t allow for us to cover the after reception drinks/food (we are paying for everything ourselves. The cocktail hour and reception includes a full bar which will be open through the cocktail hour as well as the entire reception).
How would you word that while you want the party to continue for those who want to join you, they will have to pay that part out of pocket for whatever they consume after the reception is done?
Post # 2
beebee147 : The correct title for the event to convey that information would be “no host” The problem is that many younger people won’t know wht that means. Scheduling the after -party in the same venue, also makes it a lot harder to differentiate.
Post # 3
Usually something like that is conveyed By Word of Mouth since that is not actually a hosted wedding event. Sometimes the DJ will make an announcement during the reception something to the effect of the bride and groom will be hanging out at such-and-such bar after the wedding if anyone would like to meet up with them. So I would not have it in the invitation itself nor would it be something listed on the page where you RSVP. There’s no reason for it to be something they indicate whether or not they’re going to since you weren’t paying. If you do want to list it on your wedding website (but I would be hesitant to do it), I would make a miscellaneous page and put it there with something very informal about how the two of you plan to hang out at such-and-such a place after the wedding if anyone is interested in tagging along.
I’m a little confused as to why you felt the need to time your actual reception to accommodate younger and/or older folk though. Everyone knows that they are party guests and not hostages and are free to leave whenever they like. People who don’t want to be up late dancing just simply leave after dinner and cake and a few dances. There was no need to time your party to accommodate their wanting to leave early.
Post # 4
I would spread that by word of mouth. Once you start including invites or printing it, it looks very “official” which looks like youre hosting.
Post # 5
annabananabee : I like your idea of just having the DJ announce it as we near the end of the night.
Perhaps I worded it wrong. I am not trying to guage the # of people who will be staying after the reception. I just wanted to let them know ahead of time, so people know to bring cash/a credit card if they intended to hang out after the fact.
I’ve timed the wedding this way because the only children that are invited are my immediate family (neices and nephews only). It’s important to me that my sisters stay throughout the reception and after discussing it, we all agreed that ending at 9pm so as to not impact my immediate family (who are my bridemaids too). So wedding at 3:30pm followed immediately by cocktail hour and dinner. Seemed like a happy medium for us all 🙂
Post # 6
Just put the end time of the event you are paying for. People who are big partiers will probably already be assuming that someone will get an afterparty group together, and they’ll have planned accordingly; and if they planned to go somewhere else, they’ll probably change their minds and stick around once they hear that other people will be sticking around too. It’s a confusing scenario but will be quite a bit more confusing if your invite has the afterparty info.
Post # 7
Yeah I wouldn’t mention this on your invite – just use word of mouth since it’s a casual thing. We did something similar the night before our wedding and just told people in person or via text that we were heading to x bar if they wanted to drop by. It worked fine!
By the way, I think a wedding that begins at 3:30 and ends at 9pm is 100% reasonable! Those are not weird hours for a wedding so I wouldn’t worry about that part of it, esp since you’re planning to go out afterwards.
Post # 8
I would not include this on or in the wedding invitation. Just convey individually or by word of mouth that you will be in another area of the venue after the wedding if anyone wants to join you.
Post # 9
tiffanybruiser : Thanks so much! I think we’ll be going the ‘word of mouth’ route 🙂
Thank you to all the bees who’ve taken the time to respond!
Post # 10
Ours just says “after our dinner reception we will see where the night takes us!” But we will likely be changing locations so that’s easier to sort out.