Post # 1
I’m so stumped on bridesmaid gifts its not even funny. I am on the bee all the time reading posts about gifts. Some say it should be personalized to the person and others say they don’t care they are just happy to receive something. So I asked all of my girls if they would want the same thing or something personalized to them. They all said they wanted the same thing, especially if I were giving them it all at the same time to avoid jealousy. I realize they should all be mature enough to deal with a situation but I also know that weddings are an emotional time and everyone copes differently. They have no clue what I would be getting them, heck I don’t even know what to get them. I have 6 girls. Not all of them have pierced ears so I would like to avoid earrings. I know a few of them hate wine so I wouldn’t want to go that route either. Last year I stood in 2 weddings, one I got a bracelet with my initial on it and the other wedding I got a nice picture frame which I still don’t have any picture to go in it from her wedding. I try to be different and think outside the box but I keep seeing the same things. I guess I am just wondering, If you were standing in a wedding, what would you like to receive?
Any Ideas are appreciated…Thank You!!!
Post # 3
@Mez03: I bought my girls coach wristlets. I got them different ones, but you could give them all the same one. I also got them a necklace and matching earrings. I also got them smash box makeup mini set and other little things.
Post # 4
I got my bridesmaids and maids of honor the tote bags below. They do say bridesmaid or maid of honor but also have thier monogram, I figured they could at least use it again as a beach bag or something?
I also got them these tumblrs for mimosas the morning of the wedding, I really liked that I could customize all colors, names etc. They are very wedding related but I liked them a lot and they turned out super cute
I am also getting them outfits to get ready in, plain black sweats, a red tank that says bridsmaid or whatever and they a grey zip up hoodie with a red monogram on it..Im getting married in January so I wanted them to be warm and comfortable.
I hope they like these things and I will throw in personalized litte things for each girl like their fav snack for the day of and maybe some nail polish that is in a color I know they will like or chapstick etc..
Post # 5
@Mez03: I am still working on bridesmaids gifts too.
So far I have gotten them each a silk shawl to wear on the wedding day, and I want to get them each something personal but useful.
They each have different tastes. For my married friend, maybe a gift certificate to a restaurant for her and her husband. An eclectic friend may like a unique necklace. Another may like a nice bottle of wine.
I am already paying for everyone’s dresses and some of their hotel accomodations, and day of treats like food, champange, etc., so i have a smaller budget for gifts.
Post # 6
@Mez03: I got them all robes. THey didnt say bridesmaid or anything. They all loved them and I did ask them beforehand if they preferred waffle robes, terry, silk, or something else. I also got them all makeup bags and stuffed them with Victorias Secret gift cards, makeup remover wipes, gum, mini Advil packages, moisturizer, EOS lip balm, and some other stuff. I then got each of them $50-100 gift cards to their favorite stores. It looked like everyone had the same gifts (makeup bag, robe, and gift card).
I was in a wedding last year and she got us KEYCHAINS. I will never forget it. It was horrible.
Post # 7
I’m not sure if this will help you at all…but I can give you an opinion based on the receiving end of being a bridesmaid.
I was in my friend’s wedding recently that was out of state. I spent at least $1000 on her wedding..I paid for my dress she picked out which I hated, shoes that were overpriced (that she chose), makeup and nail appointments, a gift, the plane ticket and gas, and all of the other little things I did for her. In return she gave me a little cosmetic bag with “Bridesmaid” on it and some little things inside like some lotion, chap stick, etc.
I’m not sure how to say this because I am not complaining. I loved being in her wedding and loved helping in her special day! But the gifts were extremely lousy and I would have rathered had a gift card or something useful that I would actually use. The bag is cheap and doesn’t get used much, the lotion is not what I like, and the chap stick is long gone.
Based off of my experience and how it made me feel to spend SO much money on her (I was 18 at the time and working a part time job…money wasn’t plentiful)…I would suggest putting some thought into something each girl will love. Don’t give every single one the same thing. Everyone is different and what one person loves, the other girl may hate. Make the gift about the bridesmaid to show how much you appreciate them. Being a bridesmaid isn’t easy and it takes a lot of money (at least my experience did).
I’m planning my wedding now and I am planning on buying all of the dresses because I know how expensive they are and a lot of times they aren’t used again. I really don’t want my girls to have to spend a lot of money on me.
Anyways, I’m not sure if this helps or not but I just thought I would post about being on the receiving end of crappy gifts. And I am in no way complaining..I love my friend to death and the gifts are really not a big deal. If you’re gonna spend money, just try to spend it on things they will like and enjoy.
Post # 8
Thank you all for some great ideas. I know I’ll come up with something. I think with 6 girls its just concerning me about the cost. I wanted 4 girls originally but now we are up to 6. Fi has already bought his side a gift but for him it came easy since all the guys are sports fans and know they’ll love his gift. I love my girls but we are on a tight budget for this wedding to begin with so I want something that 1) they can use again 2) be meaningful to show them how much I appreciate them and 3) I’m not stressing about the budget (trying not to spend more than he did on his guys)
@OneLuckyGirl19: I hear ya I’ve been in weddings too and know how much they can get costly. Last year my fiance (while I was away at school) stood in a party that cost him more than $1200 with rentals, all the parties, travel costs (wedding was 2 hrs away) etc. so I know I want to get them something to show how much I love them for taking the time to stand in the wedding and spending some money. I am pretty laxed though I found dresses that were on the cheaper side, they can wear whatever shoes they want, they can do their hair/nails/make up however they want etc so I’m not trying to control things to much so they can keep their costs down. I don’t want them spending a crazy amount on me either which I made that clear to them but some of my girls are stubborn and say “its your day and we’ve never gotten to do this for anyone” (most of my friends either went to city hall or eloped and one had a tea ceremony so they haven’t done the whole big wedding thing) I was thinking about getting each person something different but I asked all the girls and they all said they wanted the same thing. I appreciate all your advice though! Its good to hear from the other sides prospective of standing in a wedding!!
Post # 9
I gave all my girls fabric clutches from an etsy shop. I was able to get different fabrics that suited each girl’s personality but were all in a gray/white color palette to match the wedding/dresses. In each bag I put 2 lip glosses in different shades that came from a Sephora value pack, a necklace, tissues, and something silly just for that person (Ie one of my girls loves pink flamingos, the tackier the better, so I found some plastic flamingo cocktail stirrers and put a few in there). Here is the link to the clutches @$35 each https://www.etsy.com/shop/ModDotTextiles
Overall I spent about $50-$60 for each girl and a bit more for my maid of honor. FYI I also paid for their make-up and manicures (I also chipped in on dress cost and airline tickets for those that money was an issue)
Post # 10
@Meggiemo: So everything you got them has bridesmaid on it?! No offense, I’m sure you mean well but I wouldn’t want anything with “bridesmaid” on it. When would you ever use it again? Can you maybe just give your girls one Bridesmaid or Best Man gift and the get them something thats more generic and less WEDDING?
@Mez03: can you look for a nice piece of jewelry? I would try to just pick one beautiful bracelet or necklace? Macy’s and other department stores should have good Black Friday sales coming up.
Post # 11
@JrzyGurl: i am paying for their hair, makeup and dresses and I definitely see your point! I think I got caught up with all the cutesy shit on etsy! Lol I think I’ll nix the bmaids tanks! I also planned on getting them non wedding related items as well just still a work in progress :/
Post # 12
@Mez03: i love the idea of clutches with random stuff in them. Chapstick, a sweet note, a chocolate…
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Mez03: I am toying with the idea of getting the BMs charm bracelets with a charm on it (it would have something to do with something they like). They would not have to wear it or anything – but they both love to wear jewellery. I’m not sure what to get my Maid/Matron of Honor yet. That being said, I have plenty of time to think about it.
Post # 14
Thank you everyone for your suggestions, I definitely wanted something different than just the jewellry idea. Mainly because I’ve stood in weddings, got jewellry and never wear it again (mostly because I don’t wear a lot of jewellry and my job really doesn’t allow me to wear alot). I still have the jewellry and it does mean a lot to me and takes me back to good memories though.
I have found some really cute wristlets which match the dresses (but can also be used again anytime they go out to the bar etc) and I am thinking about getting them a bracelet or necklace on the side. I am planning to stuff the wristlet with chapstick/chocolates etc as well.
You guys are awesome!!