(Closed) Looking for input on our upcoming elopement

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@pianochick1980:  I would just send a post-wedding announcement. I feel like prewedding announcements can be a little confusing and draw attention to the fact that you’re not actually sending them an invitation.

As for the “elope” wording, I think you can just state that you had a private ceremony if you feel uncomfortable using it. However, the word “elope” doesn’t necessarily have a negative connotation. According to Wikipedia, “today the term ‘elopement’ is colloquially used for any marriage performed in haste or in private or without a public period of engagement.”

Post # 4
6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012



Congratulations!  We eloped to British Columbia, so I hear you about the mountains!




1.  There is no need to mail out wedding announcements unless you really want to.  The goal of annoucements is to send them out right away so that you are the first word and it doesn’t ge through the grapevine.  That’s what they were for anyway.  However, that means you’d need a propic from your photographer really quickly.




2.  Engagement annoucements are not a typical thing or a mailed thing.  I would advise not to send any type of pre-wedding mailing.  (unless you’re talking about a picture in the paper’s Engagements section – that is common here for very young couples).




3.  Since your August celebration party is about ~2 months after your wedding date, I’d just make a photo invitation (OR invitation plus separate photo) which is mailed to your party guests.  Mail it out 4-6 weeks BEFORE your party date so you can get RSPVs in the proper timing (that means you need to have the party date solidified/booked).  That also means you’ll need a propic very quickly from your photographer. 


Something like:


Jill and John were married privately at


Glacier National Park, Montana


On June 25, 2013


Please join us for a celebration party


On August XYZ


Dinner and dancing for all!




4.  If your celebration party is at a MUCH later date or you want to wait longer than 2 months, you can opt to do wedding announcements if you want.  You can also opt to include on your annoucements “Stay tuned for celebration party details!” which buys you more time, but kind of locks you into doing something because you said it up front.




5. Elopements can mean a lot of things these days – not always running off secretly.  Heck I say we eloped and I told anyone and everyone that wanted to know about it up front.  Intimate wedding or private wedding are also acceptable.


Post # 5
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I would just send out a post wedding announcement like “Hey we got married” along with the invite to the party in August.


Post # 6
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would just send the post wedding announcement. I’m not sure as a guest I would get the pre wedding anouncement,

Post # 9
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@pianochick1980:  We’re doing basically the same thing. We plan on sending a wedding announcement with our URL printed on it. Then we’ll send an email or use our wedding website to let everyone know about our “after party”

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