(Closed) Looking for other brides like me

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a very small intimate wedding with only 18 guests.  Of course, it was also a destination wedding in Florida.  For our reception, instead of renting out some banquet hall to try and recreate the classic wedding reception party, we had dinner at an amazing restaurant and spent over 4 hours eating, drinking and enjoying being with our very closest friends/family.  The smaller wedding allowed us to spend more on our guests, but we definitely could have done it by spending even less so I think small weddings are a great idea.  It was an amazing time and we wouldn’t have changed a thing.  Good luck!

Post # 4
1254 posts
Bumble bee

How many people will be invited, and is the cake and punch thing going to be held at a backyard or something? If your not having a large guest list and it is held at a backyard, maybe you can do games like horseshoe, croquet, bocce ball, etc. Then you and the groom can join in on the fun too! I think it would make for great pictures. 🙂

Post # 5
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Make sure you have plenty of refreshments on hand to keep people mingling longer. What about a non-alcoholic juice/punch bar? Something like this can be done fairly cheap, I know places like Marshalls, Home Goods, and Costco sell the jars:

I would also put light background music on and maybe have a photo slide show continuously showing.

Other ideas: trivia cards (about you and the groom) to get people talking to each other, detailed guest book pages to fill out, family wedding photos scattered throughout the room.

I think as long as you have a comfortable atmosphere your guests will be willing to stay longer. Don’t forget lots of water and enough chairs for people to sit!

Post # 6
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i don’t think there’s anyone who’ll give you any flack for that! we did have the grand wedding/reception/paid WAY too much…and while I am very proud of our wedding and loved every second of it – what i didn’t like was the final bill (and the scary thing, we got a TON of deals due to my husband being the manager of a catering company…so it coulda been MUCH worse!)

Seriously – if what you want is a small intimate wedding – then do it! a good friend of mine at work had a gorgeous small/intimate wedding “thrown together” in the matter of two months. It was a friday night wedding – and their ceremony and reception were actually in the same room in their church – all of the tables were set up for the ceremony and right afterwards, there was cake and punch. no dancing. no alcohol – but nice background music and it was beautiful.

plus – again – just think of all the money you’ll save and NOT worry about afterwards!

good luck and I wish you the best!

Post # 7
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@babyboo:  Love the punch bar idea!!  I think I’ll just have to steal this idea.  So much better than iced tea and soda.

Post # 8
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we had 30 people at our ceremony, and 90 at the reception. 90 isn’t that small, but it was very casual with no dancing. and we had dinner. people stayed a lot longer than i thought they would, it was nice just to be able to sit and mingle with everyone.

Post # 11
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve had backyard bbqs before with 20+ people and trust me, our friends stay for HOURS. Like, 5+ hours. Mostly we stand around, sipping some brews and chatting, but if someone sets up some washers or cornhole, usually people are off doing that. I think it’s great to offer some fun games because it gets your guests socializing and gives them stuff to do, since there isn’t dancing. Obv you need some space for 100 people, but you get the idea. If something like this was offered, I’d go play! And i’d grab some guests to go with me. If you have some nice jazz in the background without a dance floor, that’d be nice, too.

Post # 13
841 posts
Busy bee

For our civil ceremony, it will be just us (and maybe a few friends), then we will probably head out to a swanky restaurant for dinner. For our actual ceremony next year, it will probably be bigger (roughly 30 guests…or a bit more, lol).

Post # 14
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

By far the majority of weddings I’ve been to have been cake and punch (and always the little bowls of the pastel mints) in the fellowship  hall of the church.  Weddings are about celebrating the way YOU want to, and as long as you are with your Fiance and people who love you, it will be lovely.


The shoe game and trivia cards are great idea.  

Post # 16
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We just did a cake and dessert wedding, with no music (we planned to, but just didn’t have time to put together the playlist) or speeches or anything like that. But it still lasted a couple hours, just because of people visiting with each other. As long as your guests will know each other, I think you’ll be fine 🙂

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