(Closed) Looking for some advice from the hive…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would call the store for her, just to smooth things over and if not maybe cover the alteration fees?

I understand that she might have thought the bride was suppose to cover the cost of the bridesmaid dresses because there are some brides that do that.

And as you said she is a single mother supporting two girls, and being in a wedding can be very draining.

Post # 4
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I definitely did the price bargaining for my girls. I thought it was the least I could do since they were purchasing the dresses for my wedding. I’ll also help them with alteration bargaining or finding a cheaper seamstress if they need it.

Realistically, I don’t know if there is much you can do about what size was ordered, because I and my girls had to sign that we knew we were ordering a specific size. I’m guessing your girls did too. You could try to find a cheaper seamstess elsewhere. Most bridal shops aren’t a bargain.

It’s a tough situation. Don’t let it get to you. Just do the best you can.

Post # 5
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

She probably didn’t want to talk about the money or didn’t realize how much it was going to cost until it was too late.  It can be a difficult situation when you want to support someone you care about on their big day but you don’t realize how many costs are associated with it or it’s hard to come out and say “I want them to be in your wedding but as a single mom I really can’t afford the dresses.”  I say do what you can to help the situation and try not to have any hard feelings about it.  Money is always a tough!

Post # 6
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would see if you could find an independant seamstress who would be half the cost to fix them.

I’d also have them remeasured and see if they fit the next smaller size.. if they do, I’d tell the dress shop to re-order, since they messed up the measuring..

Post # 7
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would definitely call and do the talking and what not, and if you have the money to pay for the rest of the dresses, do it- It’s not worth the heartache or the potential conflict between the two of you. I wouldn’t get upset about the situation if you can help it- it’s just not worth it.

Post # 8
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

If she’s your step mother isn’t she married to one of your parents? Could you ask the parent who is married to her to smooth things over and help alleviate the cost? If it’s a huge deal I might just foot the bill for alterations. It shouldn’t be more than 40-50 dollar/dress I would think.

Post # 9
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree – I would both a) offer to pay the cost of the alterations, if you can afford it, and b) get them done by an independent seamstress.  I’m sure you can find a good one in NYC!  I had my Justin Alexander gown tailored by an independent seamstress here in D.C., and it was much less expensive than if I had the bridal salon do it, and the alterations were perfect.

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