Post # 17
My father also is deceased. I ended up doing the charm thing on my boquet. It was a nice touch, and special to me.
I personally think the empty chair/picture thing is kinda creepy. It could also elicit some sad tears when it’s supposed to be a happy day. 🙂
Post # 18
Sorry for the double post- puter is acting up! 😛
Post # 19
My sis and her hubby had a side table for the guestbook, with candles and pictures of grandparents and his mom, plus a framed statement to the effect of “In fond memory, we know you are here in spirit”. It was lovely and meant a lot to both families.
Post # 20
My DH lost his father a few years ago and I have lost 2 grandparents. Originally I thougth we would want very clear things to remember them. Ultimately as we got closer I realized I wanted them there in ways that were special to us but would not make us emotional in a bad way. I carried charms with my grandparents on my bouquet and was lucky enough to have my engagement ring be my grandmother’s. We had the wedding photos of both of our parents and grandparents at the reception. At the ceremony we had a candle on the alter for each family member who was not with us. The aspect that was the most special however was the car my DH drove a car that had a multitude of sentimental meaning to him to our wedding and we left in it as well. When we chose our wedding date it was mostly out of convienence until we realized we were also getting married within days of our DH’s parents and both of my grandparents anniversaries.
Post # 21
@ChantelleC90: I had a memory charm on my bouquet with my grandmothers pic. You could always do that along with other things like a special table with photos
Here was my memory charm
A chair with a photo
memory table with a poem and photos
releasing of balloons
Post # 22
My DH’s mom passed away from Pancreatic Cancer December 2011… so I knew our wedding would be super hard for him without her. They were extremely close and her passing was a bit of a shock. I wanted to make sure she was included as much as possible on our wedding day. I hope some of this will give you ideas. I am truly sorry for your loss.
For the day of I got him engraved cuff link lockets that held a picture of his mom in it (sorry I don’t have a picture of those yet) but I know they make it for bridal bouquets too… I did something similar for my dad because I wanted to make the day special for him too so I had the florist place a ring my dad gave me a loooonnng time ago in my bouquet and he loved it when I showed it to him.
For the ceremony I had a memorial chair right in front with a sign I just printed in Microsoft Word with a framed picture of her and some calla lilies. After the ceremony I had someone bring this to the reception and had a table that it was placed and displayed on.
The hardest was the Mother Son dance… for this I made a slide show that started from when my DH was a baby to him when he was older including all of his sisters. This was shown with the song “Tears in Heaven” while each of his sisters took turns dancing with him. I was really afraid that it would be way too sad.. so I made sure to include some really funny pictures in the slideshow. I also showed the family the night before at the Rehearsal Dinner so they were prepared the day of. I think that helped a lot. They loved it and appreciated it a lot. At the wedding everyone had tears in their eyes but they all laughed too. It was just enough to remember her but not make my DH and his family too sad.
Post # 22
We had a picture of my mother dancing with my grandfather on her wedding day set up near near the entrance of the reception. My mom passed away when I was 11 and I wanted her remembered on my big day. I originally had planned to have just my mom in her wedding dress but it turns out she was a little camera shy. My grandfather passed away the same week I met my husband so no one had objections to only having their picture together present.
I also danced with my father to my mom and dad’s wedding song. It was America by Simon and Garfunkel. It’s not a very common wedding or father/daughter song so I liked being able to dance with him to it.
Post # 23
A friend of mine placed a beautiful bouquet of white tulips on the seat that would have been her Mothers at her wedding ceremony. It was very touching.