Post # 1
Hey there, ladies!
So, I have only posted here a handful of times, but I know how insightful and helpful you ladies have been just from reading so many posts from others.
My significant other and I were actually planning to get married in December of this year, but after talking it over together, we decided to move our date up a bit. To make a long story short, we are so ready to have children, and decided we did not want to wait just a few extra months to start a family.
I, however, have some fears and anxieties that I desperately want to overcome before “jumping right in”. I want starting a family to be a happy time and an exciting decision. I have naturally always been filled with anxiety – just an anxious person. :/
I think mainly I am so fearful, not afraid of not being a good mama – just a tad bit anxious about the whole “labor” thing. Yikes.
I really want to do my research and make sure that I am prepared. I’d love to learn as much as possible, from A to Z about everything! I know some things you cannot get out of a book, just experience, but if anyone has any books that they’ve stumbled across that have been of help to them before starting a family, I’d love some suggestions!
I almost feel so awkard posting this, because it is so premature, but I want to have all of my ducks in a row! I find that I have much more inner peace about things if I can learn a little bit about the “unknown”. That’s the scary part – not knowing what to expect!
Thanks sooo much!
Post # 2
Labor is the part that scares me the most too! Following!
Post # 3
I always hear people recommending What To Expect When You’re Expecting. I’ve ordered my copy on Amazon!
Post # 4
Currently 20 weeks pregnant so no advice from experience, but ive heard positive things about the book by ina may guide to childbirth. My friends have also said that the labor process is generally overall easier if you workout throughout the pregnancy. Best of luck!
Post # 5
Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth is wonderful, especially if you are nervous about labor.
Post # 6
I would highly recommend taking a childbirth class once you’re expecting… we took a six week childbirth/infant care/breastfeeding series and it really helped me get my head wrapped around childbirth. One of the things that I liked is that they showed a lot of videos and interviews of normal experiences… so many of the labor stories are the extreme situations- they’re the dramatic ones so people like to share them- you don’t often get to hear the normal stories!
Also, when it comes to labor it helps to remember that some things are out of your control, so try to keep your expectations flexible- for example if your heart is set on using a birth tub, but your baby is in distress you’ll probably need to let go of the tub idea! There are always pros and cons of any labor method/decision. One of the exercises that helped me from the class was they gave us about 25 cards with different decisions/things that can happen during labor (for example: labor tub, getting an IV, epidural, having a c-section, episiotomy, etc) and we had keep eliminating half of the cards until we only had 5 left. Those 5 represented what was most probably important to us in the labor process.
The best labor advice that someone gave me was not to stress about tearing during labor, it totally heals surprisingly well!
Post # 7
Another vote for Ina may gaskins books.
Also hypnoborthing and active birthing workshops classes/workshops in your area.
Post # 8
Ps – ‘fear free childbirth’ is also a great Facebook page