Post # 1
I’m about at my wits end. I’m moving across the country at the end of July with my (very) soon to be husband. I’m terrified to say the least because I still do not have a job lined up in our new city and although the job market for my job exisits, I’m not super optomistic about actually finding something. Part of me can’t believe that I’m giving up a job I aboslutely love and life as I know it to move for a guy (regardless of how much I love him and how excited I am to be with him). Ugh! I just don’t know where to turn to because I don’t want friends to think I’m second guessing my marriage. It’s not the relationship that I question. Just my sanity. Not sure what I’m really looking for… similar experiences? Hearing I’m not crazy? That everything will be okay?
Post # 3
@SimpleGifts: We no longer live in a society where everyone is born, raised, and stays in the same place. This can be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. I am marrying my FI knowing that we will likely be moving next summer to go to a Ph.D. program, and then if he can get a job as a professor we will likely move 2-3 more times after that. There is the option of him forgoing the Ph.D. route and getting a job, but then we will likely move. Unfortunately I do not have a job that I love here, so that makes it slightly easier, but yeah… it was something I had to think about and consider, too. Could I do the moving and the finding a new job and trying to continue my education.
It sucks and it is tough, but if he’s the one you can do it. You’ll find a job, and if you don’t love it, you’ll find another job. Things will work out. Sometimes you just have to hear that.
Post # 4
I moved 1,200 miles for my (then) boyfriend (now husband) and it was the toughest thing I ever had to do, but also the best thing.
Post # 5
I left my job, friends, apartment for a boyfriend I meet 4 times in person and we were LD for all 8 months. They thought I was nuts, but I knew I had to give it shot. We drive for 3 1/2 days 2,300 miles for me to be here w/ him. We are now married. It was the hardest decision and led to some conflict w/ friends but it was the best leap of faith I have ever taken.
Post # 6
I just made the leap in February. I left my job, hometown and state, friends, everything that I had ever known to move to a very small town with not very many job prospects. I ended up finding a job (I took a major paycut) but with two incomes, we can still pay all of our bills and most of all we are happier than we have ever been. It’s rightfully scary and super brave that you’re willing to do this for love…it’s worth every sacrifice and in the end, they may turn out to be blessings in disguise. In the end, love does matter, not where you lived, what you did for money, but who loved every wrinkle, every fart, every tear on your pretty little head.
Good luck and congratulations!!!!
Post # 7
We are in a similar boat! We are moving across the country in 3 weeks!! 2 months before our wedding!! I have a job but my FI hasn’t found one yet. People do it all the time, it will be fine 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
I’ll be doing that in about 6 months. Granted, it is back to about an hour from where I grew up (I moved away for grad school) but it is NEVER where I thought I would be. The only thing I would say is that you need to make sure you discuss the job situation. Is he able to support you both for a time until you find something? Are you looking for something now, or could you potentially stay where you are until you find something?
Good luck, how exciting!!
Post # 9
@SimpleGifts: If it helps, FH and I moved to the other side of the *planet* and everything is working out beautifully for us. You’re not crazy, sometimes a move is just what the doctor ordered!
Post # 10
Thanks for all of the support! It does make me feel better just to have some one say ‘it will be okay!’ and to hear that other people have been through the same thing. I more or less finished up at my ‘old’ job today so things are starting to somewhat settle down as the majority of work related things are now taken care of. That makes it a little easier to just ‘buckle in’ for the ride to come!