(Closed) Looking for some love… moving across the country

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SimpleGifts:  We no longer live in a society where everyone is born, raised, and stays in the same place. This can be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. I am marrying my FI knowing that we will likely be moving next summer to go to a Ph.D. program, and then if he can get a job as a professor we will likely move 2-3 more times after that. There is the option of him forgoing the Ph.D. route and getting a job, but then we will likely move. Unfortunately I do not have a job that I love here, so that makes it slightly easier, but yeah… it was something I had to think about and consider, too. Could I do the moving and the finding a new job and trying to continue my education.

It sucks and it is tough, but if he’s the one you can do it. You’ll find a job, and if you don’t love it, you’ll find another job. Things will work out. Sometimes you just have to hear that.

Post # 4
8995 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I moved 1,200 miles for my (then) boyfriend (now husband) and it was the toughest thing I ever had to do, but also the best thing.

Post # 5
3028 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Hyperventilate:  Ditto.

I left my job, friends, apartment for a boyfriend I meet 4 times in person and we were LD for all 8 months.  They thought I was nuts, but I knew I had to give it shot.  We drive for 3 1/2 days 2,300 miles for me to be here w/ him.  We are now married.  It was the hardest decision and led to some conflict w/ friends but it was the best leap of faith I have ever taken.  

Post # 6
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I just made the leap in February. I left my job, hometown and state, friends, everything that I had ever known to move to a very small town with not very many job prospects. I ended up finding a job (I took a major paycut) but with two incomes, we can still pay all of our bills and most of all we are happier than we have ever been. It’s rightfully scary and super brave that you’re willing to do this for love…it’s worth every sacrifice and in the end, they may turn out to be blessings in disguise. In the end, love does matter, not where you lived, what you did for money, but who loved every wrinkle, every fart, every tear on your pretty little head. 

Good luck and congratulations!!!! 

Post # 7
5014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are in a similar boat! We are moving across the country in 3 weeks!! 2 months before our wedding!! I have a job but my FI hasn’t found one yet. People do it all the time, it will be fine 🙂

Post # 8
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

I’ll be doing that in about 6 months. Granted, it is back to about an hour from where I grew up (I moved away for grad school) but it is NEVER where I thought I would be. The only thing I would say is that you need to make sure you discuss the job situation. Is he able to support you both for a time until you find something? Are you looking for something now, or could you potentially stay where you are until you find something?

Good luck, how exciting!!

Post # 9
4664 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SimpleGifts:  If it helps, FH and I moved to the other side of the *planet* and everything is working out beautifully for us. You’re not crazy, sometimes a move is just what the doctor ordered!

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