(Closed) Looking for some support (NWR)…kinda long!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh Frugalista, I’m so sorry it is so stressful for you right now!  I agree that your sister is being completely ridiculous and you shouldn’t have to keep her at your house without her even asking you if it was okay.  You are not the bad guy in that situation at all and you had a lot more patience with her than I would have had!

And I’m so sorry about your job cutting down your hours and not being able to get financial aid.  Is there any way that you can appeal the decision because that’s a lot of money to come up with on a whim!  I really hope that things get better for you soon and I’m here if you need to talk.

Post # 4
Member
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) I have no advice right now for you other than to keep your head up and tell your sister it’s time she finds another place to stay or start paying rent.

Post # 5
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4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

**HUGS!!** Dang… that is a lot to deal with. 🙁 I hope your sister gets it together soon!

Post # 6
Member
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You are COMPLETELY in the right to ask your sister to move out. I know that supporting family is important, but you need to be healthy and well yourself before you can take care of someone else!

If she’s staying in the area, maybe you could invite her over for dinner once a week (like, every Monday) and ask how she’s doing – sort of like a compromise.

Post # 7
Member
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Have you seen 21 dresses, your reminds me of that.

Post # 8
Member
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My older sister struggles with mental illness and alcohol abuse. She has been in the hospital on a psych hold and has gotten 4 DUIs. I completely understand how frustrating it is being there for her and not having it appreciated.

These situations can be exhausting. You have every right to ask her to leave. It doesn’t make you a bad person and it doesn’t mean that you don’t care about her. You can’t stop taking care of you and your responsibilities. Does she have any othe family she could stay with?

Post # 9
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you did the right thing asking her to leave and you are not a bad person. It sounds like your sister needs professional help. Can she move back in with your parents while she sees a psychologist 2-4 times a week for a while to sort out her problems? And weather her attempt or threat of suicide is “real” or not, it is definitely a cry for help which needs to be addressed. I went through a period where I was suicidal and reached out to family for help and was ignored…which landed me in the hospital and a psych ward when I actually did make an attempt. I’m not saying you should take her in, but help her find a stable place to stay and a professional to talk to. It sounds like you’re a great sister though- mine would never take me in, not even for two weeks! 🙂

Post # 11
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156 posts
Blushing bee

no advice to give, but a ton of hugs

((HUGS))

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