@AudzinLuv: Thanks… 🙁 I am feeling something like relief right now, oddly enough, but I know that will change later.
@mandb122: Yeah, my mom’s issue isn’t even wedding related. Hell, she hasn’t brought up the wedding more than ONCE since we told her we were getting married back in May. It’s all stuff that goes back YEARS and has come to a head with my brother’s recent problems.
She is just not the same mom I knew growing up and into my early 20’s. She’s totally a different person, alcoholic, depressed, delusional, paranoid, and she won’t believe that she has a problem at all. It’s EVERYONE ELSE to her, always. She and I have been battling since my brother went to jail but yesterday I lost it and told her that she was partly to blame for his downward spiral. Yes, he made the final decision to do what he did but SHE pushed and pushed and pushed him for months, treating him horribly, telling him she wished she’d aborted him (!!!)… just awful. He was already psychologically and emotionally fragile. He’d been in prison for SEVEN years and she was soooooo happy he was getting out and as soon as he was out she started in on him, even chewing him out on his 3rd day out for spending his own money to order a pizza!
The man hadn’t had a real PIZZA in seven years, c’mon! She was all over him abou how he had better save his money and not be so wasteful and how he never ever planned for the future and how he was always too irresponsible and blah blah blah. All over a freaking $15 pizza order.
And it just went WAY WAY downhill from there, and I have been taking her abuse and ranting ever since he got arrested in August, because she is having a very hard time and is heartbroken and distraught, so I tolerated and tolerated her screaming at me through text and on the phone, blaming everyone else, and finally I snapped and told her what I really thought. She’d been chewing me a new one for not calling my grandma on her birthday even though I explained to her that I’d been without a phone for FOUR days… doesn’t matter what though because it’s always something with her, and that is the crux of it. She drives everyone away with her constant criticism and hatefulness then blames everyone for “abandoning” her when they naturally avoid her!
Now she says I don’t love her and that she deserves no one and is meant to be alone and for me and my brother to LEAVE her alone. Apparently he called her yesterday (from jail) for other reasons but it ended up in him trying to talk to her about her drinking, and I (not realizing she’d talked to him earlier) told her pretty much the same thing, and she said she had “taken all the abuse she could stand from her children”. Abuse, apparently, being any mention of her drinking being problematic and any mention of how she treats people leading to them staying away from her.
Just always such martyrdom and melodrama Always!!
@cosmocity: thanks. Yeah, mess is right. It’s just sad to see the numbers dropping, knowing why. 🙁