“Looks like a miscarriage”

posted 9 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

FutureMrsA2020 :  Hopefully he just has bad bedside manner and will otherwise be fine. It can be hard to ask questions when you get shocking information and some OBs get desensitized because they have seen it all. Perhaps write down some questions for the follow up visit when you will see and discuss the ultrasound results? Best of luck with your baby journey!

Post # 34
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675 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - California

FutureMrsA2020 :  Ugh I hate when people say that! Of course you want the one that you already have and you shouldn’t be forced to think about anything else, and it isn’t helpful to prematurely chime in with “you can try again”. Anyway, I am sorry he’s being so insensitive. Hopefully the next appointment will be better! 

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

FutureMrsA2020 :  I haven’t had anything to share but wanted to let you know that I’m checking in on your thread and thinking of you and I hope everything works out smoothly and well and that the time passes pretty quickly so you can get your results.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

FutureMrsA2020 :  I am also here rooting for you  (and aghast at your doctor). Please update when you know more! Hugs!!!

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

FutureMrsA2020 :  Hi. I just wanted to reach out as while I don’t have a positive experience to share I do know exactly what you are going through. I had an erpc on Friday at nearly 8 weeks after over two weeks of uncertainty and mis-information which was incredibly difficult to deal with.

Essentially I was told that I had had a miscarriage after some heavy bleeding and clots (no pain) on Dec 26th which stopped later that day. I booked to have an erpc a week later only to be told at a scan just before that a heartbeat could in fact be seen albeit slow (so erpc cancelled). Unfortunately this transpired to be incorrect and it was confirmed end of last week, and after further incidences of spotting, that I had indeed miscarried. Like you I’m pretty realistic but my god I feel like I’ve been through the mill!

While my story bears a lot of similarities and fundementally ended in a miscarriage diagnosis I certainly heard/read lots of stories like mine/yours that ended positively (bleeding caused by haematomas etc.) so I really do have my fingers crossed for you and hope you receive good news in the next few days xx

Post # 40
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Helper bee

I just want to share my experience with you. I had brown, light bleeding at 7 weeks pregnant. At the ER the on-call OB said my pelvic exam was normal, and that it was likely just normal bleeding. That pregnancy ended in a miscarriage the next day. 

With the pregnancy after my miscarriage, I had bright red bleeding at 8 weeks. It continued for a few days and then it turned to pink spotting before stopping. The OB did a pelvic exam and said that, while my cervix was closed, there was a significant amount of blood and didn’t look promising, and that there was a significant chance I would miscarry. That “doomed” pregnancy is now my 1 year old little girl, and the bleeding was a small subchorionic hematoma that resolved itself. 

I’m crossing everything for you and hoping for good news!

Post # 42
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Worker bee

FutureMrsA2020 :  I am so sorry that you are going through this! And I am not impressed with your practitioner. It sounds like he didn’t handle this well at all. Did he do a pelvic exam? Was there anything to indicate an open cervix? I bled with a SCH at 7 weeks and was told by (as my OB put it) an incompetent ER doc who told me that I lost the baby, but I had a closed cervix, perfectly rising HCG,  and a healthy and steadily developing baby with a strong heartbeat so the labs and imagery did not align with what he (the ER doc) told me. My OB reviewed the reports, re-ran the labs and imagery and told me that I just had a few small SCH’s around the baby, and that was all.  I know firsthand how nervewracking this is, and how devastating it can be to hear that you are losing or have lost your baby with diagnostics that either haven’t been done, or are not interpreted correctly. I bled through most of my first and second trimester because of the SCH’s, and am now entering my third trimester with no bleeding and a very happy and active baby. I hope that things go well for you too, and hopefully you will have the ability to get a new OB soon. I am also sending you the biggest of virtual hugs. This is hard, and emotionally scarring and I am so sorry that you are going through this. 

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

FutureMrsA2020 :  I had quite heavy bleeding with clots but no pain for a few hours on 26th and 27th which stopped for about a week. During that week I think I had a day or two of light pink spotting when I wiped but also days of nothing which is why I knew I hadn’t miscarried fully since my scan on the 27th did show a pregnancy sac which I was certain I hadn’t passed.

The week after my second scan when I was told that there may be a heartbeat I spotted almost every day with really dark brown blood. The third scan showed that the pregnancy sac had dropped to near my cervix so they think that was what was causing the spotting. Still no cramps or any real sign that the miscarriage process was going to restart hence why I opted for an erpc.

From what I have read some people bleed really heavily and everything is fine and others not at all and despite having pregnancy synptoms still find that they have miscarried. Unfortunately no one can be sure on the basis of bleeding (or not bleeding) alone; only a scan and preferably two scans to compare; can confirm. Good luck bee!

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