Post # 1
I think my initial gut feelling that the proposal would happen at the end of May is wrong.. :(…so looks like there will be no cruise proposal after all. The reason I think this is because my mom is a terrible liar and I tried squeezing the info out of her (I could easily read the texts my SO is sending her to get a better idea, but would feel awful if I did that),,,basically I asked her if she knew if he was going to do it before or after summer and she said :maybe during summer:…my immediate thought was 4th of July, so I asked her if it would be then and she started laughing (trying to hold as straight of a face possible), but laughing while she asked “why do you think it will be then?”…and quickly went into “i know nothing mode”…on top of that she is into the whole positive energy attracts positive energy thing, and in an effort to get more info out of her, I semi played the sympathy card and said, I just want to know if its going to be during the cruise or not because I don’t want to be looking forward to something and then feel disappointed, and she went into the whole “dont let it upset you, your going on a cruise, enjoy yourself, think about all you have to look forward to..etc.etc.” So while of course I am not going to REALLY be upset, we are going on a cruise for god’s sake, and 4th of July is only 1 more month afterwards, I can get rid of that initial countdown I had in my head…waiting sucks, especially when you can’t talk to the one you love the most about it!
Post # 3
Don’t count (out?) your chickens yet! I figured my DH (BF at the time) wouldn’t tell my mom when he was planning on proposing cause she’s the worst secret keeper EVER – not on purpose, she just gets excited – but he did tell her (he wanted to ask for her blessing) and she totally was able to keep her poker face around me. I didn’t expect a thing and was SHOCKED.
But even if your SO doesn’t by end of May, whenever it happens, it will be special! I know it’s hard, but just try to keep patient. 🙂
Post # 4
thanks! I know he told her because I brought it up to her one time before–she was reading the paper and kept looking down to avoid eye contact–the moment she looked up at me she started laughing and said “J___ would be very upset if you found out, he wants it to be a surprise!”… lol I guess it’s genetic b/c I am a terrible liar also! But thank you, I know it will be special but he has had the ring since December and we just booked the venue, so he better get a move on it!
Post # 5
Awww you gotta hate that feeling of disappointment when you have very high hopes. I’ve had so many it’s at the point where I almost dislike big romantic outings or events because of the inevitable disappointment! Almost. Be happy that you know it WILL happen and whether it’s during the cruise or not, you’re still going on a cruise! Woohoo! Make the most of it 🙂
Post # 6
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Either way, you know he wants to surprise you and you know it’s going to happen so try to forget and enjoy! If it doesn’t happen on the cruise, maybe it’s because he thought you’d expect it, and you guys can have a final “hurrah” vacation before getting engaged/married. Or who knows, maybe he has some really sweet proposal planned for 4th of July, a fireworks proposal could be so romantic! Either way you know it’s coming, don’t try to ruin the surprise! I know it’s easier said than done, I’ve been having a hard time lately not thinking about it or bringing it up but I really don’t want to ruin his surprise! Ultimately they want to surprise us to make us happy, which is hard for us to realize it now but it will be so worth it when the time comes! 🙂
Post # 7
thanks girls for responding! I guess I was just having a weak moment there (I was home by myself trying to write a paper, and of course all thoughts minus anything related to the topic of my paper start running through my head) but I am better now! 😀
ETA: going to try to finish up the paper today and get to the gym later to get into cruise mode!
Post # 8
i totallly understand that you are eager and anxious for it to happen! I remember what it feels like – it wasn’t too long ago for me either.
With that said, just let it go and enjoy your vacation, whether he proposes or not. If he does, YAY!!! If he doesn’t, YAY!!!! 🙂
I promise you that the moment he does propose, it will be AHHHHHmazing. I think that will be so much better than anticipating it and trying to read into things. 😉 It sounds like you have a man who wants to surprise you, which is super sweet and nice!!
Post # 9
Look at it this way, if you’re not expecting it you won’t be wondering when on this trip its going to happen. You’ll be able to enjoy it more if there are no “Now? What about now?” and you won’t be disappointed if the end of the trip comes and there’s nothing. I know it’s easier said than done though. Enjoy your cruise!!!
Post # 10
hahahaha, I especially love this…” whether he proposes or not. If he does, YAY!!! If he doesn’t, YAY!!!! 🙂 ” ….it’s true, and most of the time I can appreciate where I am in my life (although I would like to be further along career-wise), I do feel lucky as I am sure all you ladies feel to have found your forever love! It is sweet that he wants it to be a surprise…betta be a good one after all this (jk!)
I agree with you and honestly, a part of me does feel a sense of relief….Basically, I hate surprises, always have and imagine that I always will!!! My SO loves surprising me- he threw a surprise birthday party for me last summer and EVERYONE was in on it…maybe if I had cried tears of anger (is that possible?) instead of tears of joy, he wouldn’t love surprising me so damn much!!!
Post # 11
Trust me when I tell you that when he does propose, you’re going to wish you hadn’t stressed so much about the ifs and whens. You’re going to look back and realize how silly it is. It’s hard to do but you really need to chill, sister.