(Closed) looks like my initial instinct was wrong :(

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Don’t count (out?) your chickens yet! I figured my DH (BF at the time) wouldn’t tell my mom when he was planning on proposing cause she’s the worst secret keeper EVER – not on purpose, she just gets excited – but he did tell her (he wanted to ask for her blessing) and she totally was able to keep her poker face around me. I didn’t expect a thing and was SHOCKED.

But even if your SO doesn’t by end of May, whenever it happens, it will be special! I know it’s hard, but just try to keep patient. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Awww you gotta hate that feeling of disappointment when you have very high hopes. I’ve had so many it’s at the point where I almost dislike big romantic outings or events because of the inevitable disappointment! Almost. Be happy that you know it WILL happen and whether it’s during the cruise or not, you’re still going on a cruise! Woohoo! Make the most of it πŸ™‚

Post # 6
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

Either way, you know he wants to surprise you and you know it’s going to happen so try to forget and enjoy! If it doesn’t happen on the cruise, maybe it’s because he thought you’d expect it, and you guys can have a final “hurrah” vacation before getting engaged/married. Or who knows, maybe he has some really sweet proposal planned for 4th of July, a fireworks proposal could be so romantic! Either way you know it’s coming, don’t try to ruin the surprise! I know it’s easier said than done, I’ve been having a hard time lately not thinking about it or bringing it up but I really don’t want to ruin his surprise! Ultimately they want to surprise us to make us happy, which is hard for us to realize it now but it will be so worth it when the time comes! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Dell79:  i totallly understand that you are eager and anxious for it to happen! I remember what it feels like – it wasn’t too long ago for me either.

With that said, just let it go and enjoy your vacation, whether he proposes or not. If he does, YAY!!! If he doesn’t, YAY!!!! πŸ™‚

I promise you that the moment he does propose, it will be AHHHHHmazing. I think that will be so much better than anticipating it and trying to read into things. πŸ˜‰ It sounds like you have a man who wants to surprise you, which is super sweet and nice!!

Post # 9
3263 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Look at it this way, if you’re not expecting it you won’t be wondering when on this trip its going to happen. You’ll be able to enjoy it more if there are no “Now? What about now?” and you won’t be disappointed if the end of the trip comes and there’s nothing. I know it’s easier said than done though. Enjoy your cruise!!!

Post # 11
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

Trust me when I tell you that when he does propose, you’re going to wish you hadn’t stressed so much about the ifs and whens.  You’re going to look back and realize how silly it is.  It’s hard to do but you really need to chill, sister.

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