(Closed) lopsided bridal party

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How terrible will my lopsided bridal party look?
    It is going to look awful and you should ask some bridesmaids if they would mind just attending : (3 votes)
    6 %
    It will look fine just have your bridesmaids sit down and only leave the MOH and BM standing : (17 votes)
    36 %
    who cares it is your wedding : (27 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
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    2497 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @radar:  I voted to have your Maid/Matron of Honor stand up and the rest of the BMs sit. I think a little lopsidedness is fine, but I personally wouldn’t want 9 vs. 1 at the alter.

    ETA: I do think you should invite all of the girls you want to have in your bridal party. There’s no reason to leave them out simply because your Fiance only chose to have one Bridesmaid or Best Man.

    Post # 4
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    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    why must they be decalred bm’s? it’ll make you groom feel low if he can’t match that. Look at all the girls on here that feel like ish and don’t shre it with their groom when they cant find BM’s to match his GM’s.

    I say keep the bridal party balanced, invited your friends and have fun without making your groom feel like an unloved anti social nerd!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Just make girls stand on each side, like some where the groomsmen would go. Then it will still look even, even though it’s all with ladies.

    Post # 6
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    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I am having 3 people stand up with me and my Fiance is only having 2. It doesn’t bother me. I would rather us both having the people we want than worry about it being even. You will just have to figure out how people will be introduced at the reception. Maybe have your BMs walk in two at a time or something. We told the one Groomsmen that he would have a Bridesmaid or Best Man on each arm! He liked that idea haha.

    Post # 7
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think you should leave it at 6, don’t add any more! I thought you were going to say you had 6 and he had 4 or something, but if he really is only going to have his best man then you need to stop right there! I agree if you get all the BMs to sit for the ceremony that would be the best thing, and if he really dones’t want to have any groomsmen don’t force him to.

    Post # 8
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    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @radar:  is there any other role you can ask them to fill?

    Post # 9
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    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have a similar situation! My girls have been and always will be my pride and joy. I am having 5 bridesmaids and my maid of honor so a total of 6 girls altogether. My maid of honor is my best friend/cousin, 4 close friends and my fiance’s sister. My fiance on the other hand doesn’t have many close guy friends or close family members. He’s having one close guy friend from college as his best man, my brother, his sisters boyfriend (future husband) and my maid of honors boyfriend (they both introduced us). So he only has 4 people. In the beginnning of our planning it bothered me that it won’t be even, but I couldn’t see not having my close friends involved at all. I decided for the ceremoney all the guys including my fiance will be standing up at the altar already and each girl will walk down individually. Regardless if it looks balanced I want the entire bridal party up there with us, they deserve to be. It’s YOUR wedding and you need to do what’s best for you. Don’t take the chance on hurting a great friend.

    Post # 12
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    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think mismatched is fine up to a point but 9 vs 1 seems excessive and might make him feel bad. I’d probably ask everyone but Maid/Matron of Honor to sit if I HAD to have the 9. 

    Post # 13
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    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @midwesternmuse:  My thoughts exactly!

    Our bridal party is mismatched too but only 2-1(2 bridesmaids and 1 best man), so I’m not worried about it.

    Post # 14
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    10 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I am having 4 girls. He is just having his 2 brothers, so I am having each guy walk with 2 girls! It may look lopsided at the ceremony and headtable, but I don’t care! It’s your wedding, have who you want 🙂

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