(Closed) Lord please tell me that Carrie Bradshaw and Charlotte York were right!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
47 posts
  • Wedding: May 2018

Hi Pancy,

I just want to let you know that I totally feel your pain.  I just moved closer to my Fiance and we didn’t want to just get married in any old church but wanted the church to be one that we would attend in the future.  We finally decided on a church and set the date.  Just like you, the church was undergoing construction and we were told it would be ready.  4 months before our wedding, they called to tell us that we should probably move our wedding because they don’t think the church will be ready.  Surprisingly, I didn’t have a meltdown . . . we found another church and although it’s not exactly the prettiest one around (think GREEN carpet!!!), I’m glad that we could still use the same pastor from our old church.

 Basically, what I’m trying to say is this:  If the church is undergoing construction, do NOT count on it being ready in time! Our church ran into issues with city permits, etc., things that are out of their control.  I’m sorry, but that’s just the reality of things.  If you really love the church, is there anyway to move the wedding up?  I know you mentioned wanting to postpone the wedding, but would you consider moving it up just to get married there?  Anyway, goodluck with your wedding.  It’s easy to lose sight of what’s important.  For us, we realized that we would rather get married then postpone again and wait for the church.  I know we all have our dream weddings, but frankly, unless there’s a dream WORLD to go with that, it’s hard to pull off.  Best wishes to you!  I’m sure your wedding will be beautiful wherever you decide to have it!

Post # 4
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008


I feel your pain as well, especially with the church area.  We are getting married in OC at our church.  The chapel was just rennovated but during our wedding the main worship center is going through rennovation.  We decided to push on and still get married at our church, although at times I just wanted to quit everything and coerce FH to get married through the courthouse.  Where ever you choose to get married, I’m sure it will be beautiful and go as you planned it.  There are many bumps in the road, and we all get through it somehow.  Good luck!

Post # 5
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m not sure its quite as simple as that – but certainly if the worst thing that ever happens in your whole marriage is this scheduling problem with the church, you will have a happy life!  You can maybe look at it this way – you are going to be making difficult decisions as a team the rest of your life.  If you get some practice now, and manage to support each other through it okay, that certainly bodes well for the future.

My dad keeps reminding me that while there a whole lot of things we would love to have lined up for our wedding, they don’t really matter nearly as much as the actual marriage.  I know that we could get married in the courthouse by justice of the peace and be sooo happy just to be together.  So really, all the scheduling issues (while really frustrating) are not all that relevant.

I would say that if you don’t want to postpone again, find another church.  If the church is more important to you than waiting, and rescheduling everything else, by all means wait for it.  But I would take graciette’s advice and DO NOT believe them about their projected date – add a few more months just to be sure that you don’t end up having to reschedule again, or find another church anyway. 

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