(Closed) Losing Control of Guest List

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Definitely speak up. It should at the very most be a three way split but I am all for the B&G controlling the guest list. It is after all your wedding. If the parents want a party they should throw one and not use your wedding as an excuse for one.

This steams me because one of my very best friends had no say over her wedding. She got to invite only three people, was forced to wear a dress she hated, no say over decor, food, etc. She says the only thing she got to pick was the guy. It makes me so mad because every wedding she goes to makes her sad (even after 13 years) and she never looks at her wedding pictures. This is YOUR day. Stand up for yourself or you might live to regret it.

Post # 4
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@secondchances: AGREED!!!

Point is your parents and his parents already had their wedding…. this is yours and your FH and you two should be the ones to make the desicions of who, what, when, and where… b/c well it doesn’t matter who’s paying, they’re paying for YOUR WEDDING, not theirs.

We had contributions from all sides with the majority coming from Darling Husband and I and we invited who WE were close to… which left out alot of extended family.

Did some throw fits? YES… Did it bother us when they were not very nice at other family gatherings? YES kinda… BUT now 5mths later and everyone is over it… or atleast acting right again. lol

Do what works for you and Darling Husband… these are the people that you’re going to remember this day with for always, make sure it’s people that are there for YOU and HIM and not just for someone who paid for part of it.


Post # 5
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@secondchances: That is so incredibly sad!

I’m worried about our wedding ending up like that because my Dad is paying for most of it, so his wife (my step-mom) thinks she gets to control it.  She’s inviting a bunch of her family who I don’t know and wanting to be treated as the ‘mother-of-the-bride,’ even though my own mother is alive and very close to me.  If things get too out of control my fiance and I are going to politely tell them we’ll just have a small, low-budget wedding and cover the cost ourselves.

MrsJoon- I think you should talk to them as soon as possible, before things go to far and they starting telling people they’ll be invited or even sending out invitations.  

Post # 8
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsJoon: glad you have been able to sort this 🙂 

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