- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I posted a couple weeks back about something but deleted the post after, just because it was super personal and I didn’t want it out on the Internet forever. Anyway, new thing now.
Has anyone else lost a lot of friends right before or after marriage? Or had friends act really weird? I’ve been married almost a month and friends have been super weird about it, on both my side and my husband’s.
My friend of 7 years forgot the wedding, then cancelled 4 days before over text because she didn’t think her new boyfriend could come. She then said she was coming but only to the ceremony, then cancelled the day before saying her new boyfriend was going back to his home country soon (she met him abroad this summer) and they wanted more alone time. She never even called, this was all over text.
My friend of 14 years came to the pre wedding dinner party (like a rehearsal dinner but everyone was invited) but the day of the ceremony she’d forgotten the time, then said she couldn’t make it to the ceremony. I asked if she was still coming to the reception and she said to give her the address again. I forgot to text her the address (I was doing all my own flowers (by myself) the day of the ceremony due to floweR ordering problem the day before, not an excuse, but still), and heard nothing from her. Half an hour after the reception started I remembered and texted her, I didn’t hear back for an hour, when she said she would not have gotten to the reception on time (5:45pm) because she was late at work (she leaves early all the time and is basically her own boss). I said she could still come as it lasted until 11:00om, she said send her the address again. I didn’t hear from her again that night and she ever showed up. The next day there was an post wedding lunch (my husbabs is from another culture and country, so this was for that side). I texted her in the AM to confirm she was coming, she said she couldnt come, but for me to enjoy and congratulations.
A third friend unfriended me on facebook right after my wedding, no congrats or any explanation. She wasn’t invited because it was out of state and we’re just casual friends, but we were friends. And she has all her other 600 friends still on there, including a woman I know she’s had big problems with.
I don’t know what is making all these women act this way? I try to be a good friend, and I wasn’t a bridezilla or overly caught up and distant by any means. It’s hard for me to make friends, so it’s been really upsetting that the friebds I do have, and have had a long time, chose to act like this.
My husband had a similar thing with two of his friends as well (he makes friends easily though, and people gravitate towards him, so it softens the blow a bit).
Did anyone else experience the same thing? If so, what to you think is going on? Thanks!