(Closed) Losing Hope…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’ll come together!! Don’t lose hope!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is a lot on your plate at once! Sounds like one of those “grin and bear it” times. But you will get through it! And you are not alone! A lot of couples can’t have the wedding they want then they want it. It will be worth the wait, and until then, you have him! =)

Would you be interested in a small wedding with just a few friends and family and a nice dinner out? Adn then have a big old reception when the time feels right?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I kind of understand your situation and its not really fun. I mean ok, so i’m sure your not some  crazy person who is materialistic, but wanting to get married and all that is reasonable to me! I didn’t get a ring until we had been married for 2 months, he proposed to me with no ring, and we ran to the dmv to get married, well granted we were kind of in a rush since i was pregnant….lol.

But I see how that could bum you out!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had a similar convo before we got engaged.

I told him that I was okay with having a temp ring (this is ring that I will never get rid of, but isn’t my actual ring).  I have a 2 ct.tw. 3-stone, princess cut, CZ ring in sterling silver, and you’d be hard pressed to tell the difference btw mine and a real one!  I told him that I was okay with this!!  Similar to this:

We put in our wedding budget to afford a real band.  My wedding band is 1ct.tw. princess cut, channel set actual diamond ring & we got it on UBER sale, when a company was going out of business.  Sim to this one:

I will wear this until he can afford to get me another ring.

This saved us a bunch of money in the short term, and if you are okay with it, it’s a totally possible solution!

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

have you talked about getting married without the engagement ring? I have friends who did this..similar situation to you, and they just decided let’s get married have a small casual wedding and can do something big when it’s feasible

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

hugs, hopefully ur finances will change and u can get what u wish for

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry you are going thru this!  Here’s hoping you win the lottery!  Or if I do, I’ll send some cash your way!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I would go ahead and get married. Have a nice ring (that isn’t a “real” one), celebrate with family and friends and have something simple but festive. That’s just me.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Don’t lose hope! I hope everything works out. I agree with a scaled down wedding. Maybe later on, do a really nice honeymoon, before babies come. I hope things work out for you!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Even though he’s a traditional guy, maybe you could explain that he doesn’t have to get you the ring he’d like for you to eventually have right away, and that it is common for couples to upgrade their rings down the road. If he’s dead-set on diamonds, maybe show him some pictures of less-expensive rings, maybe quad-cut style (that one’s less than $400), and just emphasise that you don’t care as much about the ring or wedding as you do about being his wife.

By The Way, I am a little bit younger than you but i still totally feel you on the “boyfriend” thing. When you’re an adult in a serious relationship, the title just sounds dumb after a while. I’m ready to have at least a “fiance,” too!!

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