Post # 1
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Helper bee
Hi bees,
It hurts my heart to write this but I think I am about to lose my job. I work in childcare and I think that my current family have decided that they no longer need me. I can already feel myself begin to fall into this deep sadness and feeling of being unworthy.
The main issue is that I am a UK national living in a European country. I moved here with my fiance because he is doing his PhD and has minimum one year left. I am now absolutely terrified because Brexit is just around the corner and I will no longer have a job when I go to re register as living here. I don’t know how it will affect me. I was lucky in the beginning because I found this job incredibly quickly and have always felt happy and secure there but I suppose it was slightly unpredictable. I have a feeling that the job hunting process won’t be as easy this time. I tried to put a lot of effort into learning the language in the beginning but my job was English speaking only so it was easy to fall into the habit of forgetting to practice which I sort of regret right now!
I know it’s bad but right now I just feel like running away back to the UK and never coming back but obviously I love my fiance so much and would go anywhere with him. It’s a tough situation and I just needed to vent because I am experiencing a lot of uncertainty and worries at the moment.
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
I have no advice for you, just sending love and hugs.
Post # 3
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272 posts
Helper bee
misstomorris : Thank you very much, that helps. At the moment I’m taking this opportunity to update my CV and create a strong cover letter template for future childcare jobs. In my mind I know that it will be fine and the world won’t end but I’m definitely still trying to get over the intial shock!
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
alybe : I am in the US, but is there anything like Care.com in your area? It’s a job-searching website for childcare.
Post # 5
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Newbee
Depending on which country you are living in the rules Will be different.
What about marrying your fiance and becoming a dependent on his visa? Even if you guys just do the courthouse thing first and plan whatever reception you guys have planned?
And what about a conversation with your employer family to honestly discuss your future so you have a more concrete idea of when/if you will finish up with them?
Big hugs.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
misstomorris : Thank you! I am not sure about this but it is something I will definitely look into.
Hell-0hell-0 : Thank you for your suggestion. We have already agreed that getting married sooner is definitely an option depending on how the job hunting goes. Our wedding is currently booked for 2021 but neither of us are against going to the courthouse first if that is what’s best. Obviously it wouldn’t be the ‘fairy tale’ but I really don’t care about that because I’ll be marrying the love of my life.
I am talking with my employer family this afternoon and we will discuss everything then and hopefully it will be a lot clearer and I can stop going over it/worrying and just deal with it instead.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Not sure what the Brexit is unfortunately. But this is a situation where you need to just find a job period… It may not be in childcare but if finding a job just for you to stay is what you need then find anything whether it be fast food, waitress, or a cashier. Or clean homes. My only advice.
People get stuck because they don’t think to look outside their preferred career for something termporary while they look for the real deal. And yeah the job might be not your thing but its enough to say you are working and making money.
Post # 8
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Worker bee
Can you do an intensive language program so that you’re fluent in the language? Then you might have more job opportunities?
Really sorry that this is happening.
Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
alybe : I am so sorry to read this. The truth is no one really knows what Brexit will mean. Working on your CV and brushing up on your language skills is a great start. Would the family you work for know anyone in need of your services. I am sure they would want to do everything to ease your departure.
Best of luck to you, it sounds like a really rubbish and stressful situation!
Post # 10
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Helper bee
Thank you everyone for your advice! I’ve woken up today feeling a lot better and a lot more positive! After telling family and friends I received a lot more support than I expected and that has really helped me! I’m going to take a few days to digest the news properly and really polish up my cv and then I’ll start the job hunting process! No idea what I’ll find but anything I can do I’ll do!
A language course is a great idea and that is also something I’ll look into if I haven’t found a job by x time I think.
Again thank you for all of your advice! It really means a lot when I was not in the best place.
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