- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Long story, sorryyy….
We’ve been married 8 months, and we’re struggling a bit financially right now. DH started grad school this year (right after college), and I’m working full-time. He has a mountain of loans, so after the wedding, we decided not to take out any more loans on his grad school and would pay for it out-of-pocket. He’s paying half-tuition since it’s a new emphasis at this school and it’s online, and we really thought we could swing it. At the time we were making that decision, he had just gotten hired with a personal training company that said they would give him XYZ hours (and the potential for more)–our calculations said he would be making enough to cover the monthly tuition costs.
Well, needless to say, that hasn’t happened. This is a private company, and the people are really nice, but… they just haven’t given him the hours he was promised–classes get randomly canceled, clients are waiting til the weather gets warmer to start sessions–just a long list of reasons why things keep changing. And I feel like they have definitely changed rates and what qualifies as what, too.
We are eating into the savings I’d worked hard to build before getting married (for a future house, a future car, a future child), and DH was getting depressed that he wasn’t contributing enough financially, so he started applying for other jobs. He just got hired at another gym, and we were excited about that! But after his meeting today, it sounds like (in addition to having to get more certifications that he has to pay for), he will need to work weekends and more evenings. I know any free time he does have will be spent studying for grad school.
There’s really nothing we can do, but I’m sad that I will lose more time with him just because we need more money. I was already feeling like I saw him less. I get it, people work out when they’re NOT at work… so that’s when HE has to work. And I work a regular day-shift job. I’m just feeling blah. Not looking forward to evenings and weekends spent alone. And I’m kind of worried that we won’t be getting that much more money even with this new job!
Anyone else want to commiserate with me? Tell me about your hard times so I feel better! Or at least tell me that marriages don’t suffer just because you don’t see each other much? What do you do when you don’t get to see each other much?