- 8 years ago
- Wedding: Private home
My little sister and I have never been close – She had horrible medical problems all through her childhood, which got her a lot of attention from our extended Italian family, who really only notice if s0meone’s sick or dead. So I spent most of my childhood angry and bitter at her, since she got to play the sick card and got out of any responsibility or chore she didn’t want to take. We had horrible screaming matches and she beat me up with a broomstick at one point – which lead to me getting yelled at for asking her to help sweep the kitchen “in her conditon” (She was long past recovery of any particular problem). When I went away to college, our relationship got a little better – the distance helped a lot. I thought our relationship had actually progressed to friendship until she ended up in her first real relationship – and suddenly I’m the evil sister again. She spent most of my wedding on the phone with her girlfriend, who complains about how her family is smothering her (the girlfriend comes from a very rocky family and doesn’t trust us)and suddenly doesn’t want to have anything to with any of the family.
She and the girlfriend had a nasty dustup a few months ago leading to the girlfriend claiming that my sister had lied to her and that she (the girlfriend) could never trust her again. I got the whole story via text and told her that if the girlfriend kept claiming she couldn’t trust her then maybe the relationship wasn’t worth keepng and that she should go find someone she didn’t feel like she had to lie to be with. This was apparently the wrong thing to say, since my sister “loves” her girlfriend and wants to be with her ore than anything. Since then, I haven’t heard much from her until yesterday.
She’s refusing to come to our second reception (we got married on the East coast and most of our longtime family friends couldn’t come, so my mother is throwing a second party to celebrate with them). I would understand it if it was work related – but she says she doesn’t want to come because she wants quality time with our parents without me stealing the spotlight – as she put it.
It just makes me sad and uncomfortable that apparently we can’t share our parents, and it’s going to be really rough on my mon having to explain why my sister didn’t want to come to the party.
So what now – do I just let her be and hope we can be friends later, or try and understand where she’s coming from