(Closed) Losing weight comment (RANT)

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Sounds like your head is in the right place and you are confident with yourself.  Don’t let your mother’s comment get you down.  Use it as a way to bond with her.  My Mom and I started going to the gym together because she wants to lose weight for the wedding but I’m just toning up.  We have a good time and it’s always more fun to go to the gym with someone else — maybe that’s why she’s trying to convince you to go.

Post # 4
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know how you feel.  I recently told my mother I may have PCOS and that would be part of the reason I’ve always struggled with my weight.  Her comment was “Well, you must be relieved.”  I didn’t bother to respond, but needless to say, I was offended by her comment.  She obviously said it because SHE is relieved.  Maybe she figures I’ll take some pill to cure the PCOS and be skinny all of a sudden.  If that’s the case, she’s wrong. 

Like someone else said, you have your head in the right place.  My fiance once told me (before we were a couple) that he loves that I am so confident about my body and not hung up on the fact that I need to lose weight or be a certain size to be happy. 

Don’t pay much attention to what she has to say.  You’re beautiful and you know it. 

Post # 5
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I love the fact that you’re so confident!


You’ll make a lovely bride because you will know you look good on the day!

As for the mother, that’s a bit weird. I’ve heard a lot of parents go funny when it comes to a second wedding, so maybe she’s just got this whole ‘You’ve had your day, you don’t need another’ thing in her head. I think she might have forgotten that it’s your fiance’s special day too.

The weight comment ws just rude though. Shrug it off and focus your enegry on creating your special day.


Post # 6
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

There is nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own skin and OWNING what you look like. It’s fantastic in fact!  Kindly tell your mom that you’re not looking to lose weight and you love yourself just as you are, thank you very much.  Good luck with the planning, it sounds like it will be fun.  It stinks when others really aren’t into the planning but that’s just the reality sometimes.  Use the folks on here for opinions instead.  We’re much more into weddings.  🙂

Post # 7
4682 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My sympathies. My mom has made comments like this to me, even when I weighed 110 (and I am far from that now). I’ve had to tell her to stop. She means well, but it’s not helpful.

Post # 8
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sometimes moms can be so bitchy, who knows why, I don’t get it. My grandma keeps pointing out how small my boobs are in every dress…awesome, I am aware, get me a boob job if you want or shut up. I hope this makes us better parents 🙂 my 

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