Post # 32
@Fmjxn: I agree with you.
I’ve seen my Brother-In-Law struggling to lose weight for 8 months prior to his wedding, and because he just stopped dieting afterwards without an ongoing plan, I’m seeing him become larger by the day (and probably he will reach his starting weight -if not more- in the next few months).
To me, with a little more than 9 months to my wedding, it has given me the push I needed to commit to a life-changing lifestyle, after struggling with EDs during my teens and a love-hate relationship with food ever since.
What I’m doing now is chosing to eat healthy, both because I want to look good and because I want my health to improve. (I even stopped weighting myself, because I want to be beautiful, not skinny).
I hope I can maintain this new healthy lifestyle so I can stop dieting once and for all!
I’m of the opinion that, given the chances that us brides have to have our dress fitted to us so it fits like a glove, we should make the dress fit us, not the other way around!
Post # 33
Is it only for ONE DAY though? When you look back twenty years from now and see yourself glowing and exactly how you imagined you’d be, doesn’t that mean you lost the weight for that day to be remembered FOREVER!?!?!
I’m losing the weight because I want to:
A) Look killer in my dress (my dress’s back is sheer and I’ll be DAMNED if I’m going to spread my back fat and fly away)
B) To be on the lower numbers when we TTC because then when I gain pregnancy weight, I won’t be unhealthy
C) To feel really good about myself and keep it off.
That ONE DAY is a huge motivator. I’ll always say, hey, I’ll start working out next week, or in January. Now, it’s I BETTER GET MY ASS IN GEAR NOW.
Post # 34
@Fmjxn: I have about 5 pounds to lose before I am at my ideal size. I’m doing that as a lifestyle change and because I will be happier with myself afterwards, with the side benefit of being thinner by the time our wedding comes around. I guess being engaged gave me an extra push to make sure I’m fit and happy with myself, because it is the beginning of a new stage in life, but I intend to stay fitter once I get to my goal, even well after the wedding.
I don’t understand why people would diet themselves thinner for their wedding exclusively; I feel like if it’s not a change you can sustain, it may not be a healthy way for the person in question to be. I think it’s much better to adapt one’s lifestyle permanently to be able to be happier with oneself, wedding or no wedding.
Post # 35
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@Fmjxn: I hear you! I used to work out with a friend who has since moved away. She always thought I was pushing myself so hard because my wedding was coming up. Well, that was part of it. Who doesn’t want to look fabulous in their wedding photos? But I also wanted to be more fit in general.
I remember a month after the wedding I started doing my hard workouts again. She literally told me, “You need to stop this. Your wedding is over. Why are you doing this to yourself?” She could NOT understand that I wanted to work out to be healthy. Her reaction actually shocked me.
Post # 36
I definitely have weight to lose, but I don’t work on it strictly for the wedding. And right now I’m having digestion issues that they’re trying to diagnose, so I feel gross, bloated or nauseous pretty much 90% of the time.
I have an issue with my arms, but I’m not so hung up on everything that I’m working on it obsessively for the wedding.
Post # 37
I voted “other” because I was already on my weight loss journey for about 5 months before I got engaged (engagement was a surprise so I didn’t know when it was coming…). I had already lost a majority of my weight (about 35 lbs) by the time Fiance proposed, and now I’m still on my journey and have about 20 more pounds to lose. I’m going to try to lose what I can during the wedding planning process but I’m not going to freak out if I’m not at “goal” by the wedding date. It is a good motivator but I am glad I started before because I haven’t had the pressure of wanting to lose a large amount of weight during the wedding process (and trying on dresses).
Post # 38
I was at my heaviest weight ever on our wedding day. The way I felt about myself on that day is the reason why I started losing weight AFTER the wedding. I agree with you that it’s a waste to lose weight just for that one day and then gain it all back after. Why not keep it off?