Loss of my sister.. don’t know how to cope

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Wannabee

Reading this brought tears to my eyes. I am so, so, so sorry. I am sure your sister loved you very much and felt very lucky to have someone that cared for her as much as you did. I am so sorry sweetie.

Post # 32
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Busy bee

This broke my heart. I am so VERY sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Cheekie0077 :  I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 20 to a sudden illness and my advice to you is don’t feel guilty about your feelings. If for one day, or even a couple of hours you don’t feel sad don’t overthink it. You’ll go through a huge range of emotions not all of which will be sadness or grief and for me that was very confusing and caused me a lot of guilt. My dad and I were extremely close and I was (and still am) heartbroken over his death but at the funeral I didn’t even cry. Actually at one of the visitations one of my friends made me laugh and it was so strange. I could feel people judging me and I didn’t understand my emotions myself. My friend told me

“don’t grieve the way people think you should, there is nothing wrong with feeling ok for a little bit, you don’t need to prove to people that you’re sad it’s not about them.” And that made me feel better.

All I’m trying to say with my weird anecdote is you might not feel the way you think you should all of the time, it comes and goes in waves, one minute you might feel almost happy and think “huh this is strange, is this even ok?” and then later you’ll get a wave of sadness and grief. It just happens. Also I didn’t find a grief counselor particularly helpful myself but I would recommend it, they will help you confront feelings you might be avoiding and it will relieve a lot of emotional exhaustion.

Again, I’m so sorry for your loss, remember the positives, let yourself grieve, don’t be hard on yourself.

Post # 34
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506 posts
Busy bee

I’m so so sorry for your loss bee.

I have two sisters & can not even imagine what you are going through, please take care of yourself during this time. 

Hugs! 

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: City, State

Hi Bee … Reading your post has brought tears to my eyes. I, too, lost a sister … She’s 23 months younger than I am. Her death happened in 1986 when I was 5 years old and I am 38 now, the truth for me is … The grief of her loss comes in waves, at first you feel as though you’re drowning and it comes in so frequently and you feel like you can’t breathe  … Over time you will learn how to ride the waves, and days like todaywith this post, where I sit and think she’d be 36 today and wonder what my life would be like with her in it, I am drowing in the waves all over again, I still miss her and I think that is perfectly okay … I want to reach out and give you a hug.

Post # 36
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Helper bee

I’m SO SO SO sorry for your loss bee 

I lost my only sister in 2010 to cancer. Her birthday was Jan 8 and mine is Dec 8 of the same year. God we were SO close she left two daughters 19 and 9. I miss her very much.Some days it’s easier and some are very hard what helps me keep going is that I know she is no longer hurting. She got to see her first grand child he was 11months when she passed. Now my niece has three beautiful kids and I take care of them. When I see them I get to see my beautiful sister in them every day. Just be around your family for comfort and as time passes it will get easier but you will always miss her you will just learn to live with the pain. 

My prayers are with you and your family. Sending you hugs.

Post # 37
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Busy bee

I’m so sorry OP 🙁 what a horrific and traumatizing experience this must have been for you and your mom. It’s so unfair that she was even doing better recently, only for you to be completely blindsided. 

Please lean on your loved ones and take it day by day. This is so heartbreaking. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

All I can say is I’m so sorry for you. I lost my oldest brother 14 years ago, it’s impossible to explain how much it hurts. Take the time you need for yourself, this is a traumatic event especially with the death of your cousin 8 days before. 

Post # 42
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Blushing bee

I’m so so sorry for your loss, wishing you and your family lots of love. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Cheekie0077 :  Just wanted to check back in and say it is absolutely OK to seek professional help in this situation! Have you looked into grief counseling? It does wonders for a lot of people, especially like you mentioned to see that you are not the only one going through this. 

More hugs and more love sent your way today.  Grief is such a crazy journey. You DO NOT have to take it alone.  

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