Loss of my sister.. don’t know how to cope

posted 6 days ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Wannabee

Reading this brought tears to my eyes. I am so, so, so sorry. I am sure your sister loved you very much and felt very lucky to have someone that cared for her as much as you did. I am so sorry sweetie.

Post # 32
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928 posts
Busy bee

This broke my heart. I am so VERY sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. 

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Cheekie0077 :  I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 20 to a sudden illness and my advice to you is don’t feel guilty about your feelings. If for one day, or even a couple of hours you don’t feel sad don’t overthink it. You’ll go through a huge range of emotions not all of which will be sadness or grief and for me that was very confusing and caused me a lot of guilt. My dad and I were extremely close and I was (and still am) heartbroken over his death but at the funeral I didn’t even cry. Actually at one of the visitations one of my friends made me laugh and it was so strange. I could feel people judging me and I didn’t understand my emotions myself. My friend told me

“don’t grieve the way people think you should, there is nothing wrong with feeling ok for a little bit, you don’t need to prove to people that you’re sad it’s not about them.” And that made me feel better.

All I’m trying to say with my weird anecdote is you might not feel the way you think you should all of the time, it comes and goes in waves, one minute you might feel almost happy and think “huh this is strange, is this even ok?” and then later you’ll get a wave of sadness and grief. It just happens. Also I didn’t find a grief counselor particularly helpful myself but I would recommend it, they will help you confront feelings you might be avoiding and it will relieve a lot of emotional exhaustion.

Again, I’m so sorry for your loss, remember the positives, let yourself grieve, don’t be hard on yourself.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

I’m so so sorry for your loss bee.

I have two sisters & can not even imagine what you are going through, please take care of yourself during this time. 

Hugs! 

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