Post # 1
I dont know why I just feel lost at this moment with planning… i dont know I feel that alot of the stuff now can really be done closer to the day… but I want to be prepared and not running around like my head cut of when my folk come down and there less than a week… I’ve check all this bridal check list and i’m month a head of myself but i dont know i have to be missing something. 8 month to go but i know time fly and soon it will be a week to go. I’m just a afraid i’m forgetting something specially being i been planning this wedding with very little help. I’m at a lost. am i alone? sorry for the rambling i just really needed to
Post # 3
You aren’t alone.
Sometimes I feel lost too, but I have made lists of everything that I need to do and I check each item off as I go. I have made one for vendors, one for my DIY, and one with the addresses of every guest. I mark each item paid or done as I go on the vendor list and the DIY list and the address one has a column for save-the-date sent, invitation sent, and RSVP received with yes or no. Each of these lists are on my computer desktop, so that I can refer to them frequently, if I have an OMG!!! I forgot something moment. I am sure you are fine. Sometimes it is good to take a break from the wedding stuff, so you can start back fresh. It clears your mind, so you don’t get so bogged down.
Post # 5
I completely understand what you are feeling. We just got engaged a month ago and I was so excited until I started planning it and it was just overwhelming. I second the idea of taking a break from it. Even if it is only a day it will help a lot and what is the worst that can happen?
Oh and ask your Fiance to help out- I was hesitant to do this since I like to be in control, but he really wanted to help so he is doing all of the research for the honeymoon, which is one less thing for me to worry about!
Post # 6
I think that planning goes in two shifts: at the beginning, you get everything together in a whirlwind–the “biggies”–venue, food, guest list, dress and all the ideas for the details. Then you send out the Save-The-Date Cards, print up the invites, and…big long doldrums. Because you can’t really move on anything until you start getting RSVPs–can’t do escort/place cards, can’t order centerpieces, and a lot of other stuff that you are doing tends to be more of the nuts-and-bolts boring stuff: alterations, contracts, insurance, meeting with photographers (not that it’s boring, per se, but it’s not really taking the pictures) etc. So it’s not necessarily that you are behind; sometimes that’s just the way planning goes. If you really are feeling neurotic, you can always research places where you want to get DIY incidentals (like paper for programs, fonts for menus, favor boxes) so that you’ve got everything in place for when you’re ready to order down the line.
Noritake is right–writing it down will help your peace of mind. If you’re freaked out about too much to do in the final weeks, divvy your tasks up into batches and say, “Okay, once I get 20 RSVPs, I’ll do the 20 place cards for them and 2 menu cards since i’ve got 2 tables,” or something. One thing I CAN say is write thank-you notes as soon as you receive a gift–do not put THAT off. I made myself a little “thank-you writing kit” which is a box that has stationery, a print-out of my Excel guest list that has their address right there so I can handwrite it, with space on it to log in the gift given if I can’t get to the computer to input it, nice pens, a couple “boiler plate” wordings I wrote up on the computer that can be easily tweaked, postage stamps, and our return address stamp. The box usually just sits on my desk, but it’s nice that it’s portable in case I want to write them up during TV commercials or something. I’m neurotic about it and have to do it the minute we receive anything, but you could get a system going and do it once a week or something.