Post # 17
I haven’t had any girls drop out but I can understand the dissapointment/fustration. Like PP it’s better to know sooner than later. I’ve only been in one wedding party and while it was a little pricey it was also a lot of fun to be a part of … I really enjoyed it!
I think it’s safe to say that by agreeing to be a bridesmaid you need to know going into it that your going to need to allocate approx. $1k. Bridal shower, batchelorette party, bridemaid dress, shoes, accessories, hair, make-up, wedding present, hotel costs etc. … it adds up so quick.
Try not to take it too personal. She’s being upfront and honest. Try to make the best of who will be with you that day and try your best not to stress!
Post # 18
I think she’s being honest, but I personally don’t understand why someone would accept and THEN step down. I just think that she should have looked at things before she accepted. But that’s just me 🙂
Post # 19
I tend to agree with that also, I asked her back in October so she has had plenty of time to get things figured out. At least better now than later.
Post # 20
@lovelylight99: hrm, even though it does sound sincere, i think id feel annoyed too ): not at her but generally in the fact that she couldnt tell me personally or over the phone.. I dont know. But im a paranoid kinda bee too.
hope you find a good replacement, dw, like pps have said, its good she gave much notice that you have time to sort things out xx
Post # 21
I think she’s being honest, however she could have mentioned it before now. However you do still have time to replace her.
Post # 22
@lovelylight99: Sounds like she’s afraid of disappointing you and doesn’t want to have to see it in your face. I can relate to not having the money if she really doesn’t have the funds for it. I would tell her that you understand but that you are disappointed that she wrote it in an email and that you think you deserved a face to face conversation about it.