- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Bees, I’m extremely upset about something that is going on with one of my bridesmaids, who also was my best friend…so I thought.
A little background to begin. I moved to a new town about three and a half years ago and met my friend “A” about two years ago. We immediately hit it off and were very, very close. We live in a small town and were nearly inseparable. We had the type of friendship that everyone expected to see us together and when we weren’t, they always asked about the other, etc. Well, her and her boyfriend decided to move back to where they are from around the middle of July. She had some pretty major emergency surgery about a week before they left and I was by her side the entire time. Even as her boyfriend took off out of town on the night of the surgery. She had to miss a lot of work that she was planning on right before the move and I knew that with them moving, she was short on cash. My bachelorette weekend was planned for the last weekend and July and she indicated that she would be there over and over and over. She was supposed to be riding with another friend and at 8:30 on the Friday of my bach, after everyone else was already in Vegas, she calls to tell me the girl she was riding with couldn’t come and she doesn’t have a ride to Vegas anymore, can’t afford a plane ticket, etc. I was super upset b/c she was the person I wanted there the most, but, I shook it off, had a fun weekend, and chalked it up to the moving/finances/surgery/etc. Who was I to be mad with all that she had going on? I put it behind me and just started looking forward to seeing her at the wedding. We are getting married in Mississippi and she lives in CA but, she had two flight vouchers and already booked her tickets for the wedding in July since they were free for her. So, I knew she would be there.
Fast forward to two weeks ago. My bridesmaids are all selecting their own dresses but in the same color. I have been asking “A” about her dress, when she was going to get it, etc. She always had an excuse as to why she hadn’t been but would assure me that she was going the next day, after work, etc. I spoke with her two weeks ago in length on the phone and everything was fine. She sounded great and we talked for a while. During last week I sent her a few short texts (we usually text ALL the time) some asking about the dress but never got any response. I called her twice just wanting to chat and she never returned my calls. Then, on Thursday night I finally sent a text saying, hey, what is going on? Are you still planning on coming to the wedding? I haven’t heard anything and it seems like you haven’t had much time or interest in finding your dress. I got no response from her. I texted her on Saturday and said “A”, I need to know what is going on, I have reservations to make, bridal luncheon, programs to make, seating charts, etc. please call or text. I still heard nothing. I finally texted her and said your lack of response lets me know that you aren’t coming.
This is completely unlike her. We talk almost every day. We haven’t had a fight or anything. But…she has a history of blowing things off for something better that comes along be it work (she is a promotional model so work isn’t steady) or a party, etc. I’m so upset that the girl who was my best friend can’t even call or text me but I know she is okay b/c she is posting pictures on facebook and on instagram. I haven’t contacted her since Sunday and I don’t think I will at this point. She isn’t good at confrontation and all I can think is she just didn’t have the nerve to tell me she wasn’t going to come? I don’t know. What would y’all do? Would you just let it go and not worry with it? Do I try to contact her again? I asked my fiance and he didn’t want to hear anything about it b/c he can’t stand drama, etc. I just don’t understand how you stop talking to someone practically overnight who is supposed to be your best friend.