(Closed) Lost a bridesmaid….

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I am sorry-maybe she’s just too embarrassed over her size/looking “good” in her opinion, or maybe she really does have $ issues, with this economy.  At least she is excited for your wedding! 

Post # 5
235 posts
Helper bee

Sounds like you are better off without her.  It was rather rude of her to just text you instead of telling you face to face. It sounds like she doesn’t feel good about herself and would have a problem being in front of people and having attention brought to her.  You don’t need the drama and worry come wedding day whether she can perform her duties.

Post # 6
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m so sorry that you are going through this.  She absolutely should have spoken to you earlier and voiced her concerns if she had any doubts about her ability to be a bridesmaid.  If you are absolutely certain that self-esteem issues were the only reason why she dropped out, then if it is possible, it would be a mitzvah (a very good deed) if you could tell her how much she means to you, and that you understand that she would prefer not to be a bridesmaid, but that you would love for her to still attend your wedding.  Please understand that I am not defending her actions – she absolutely should have handled the situation much differently – but if her actions really were caused by self-esteem issues, then she must be carrying a lot of sadness in her soul and feel very guilty about hurting you (which is ironically why she chose to text you since she couldn’t face dealing with your sadness in person).   


Post # 8
3 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sorry to hear that, we’re dealing with a flaky groomsman right now, so I totally understand! On the positive side, at least she backed out now, eight months out, so you still have time to replace her. Also, she may actually have some deeper issues that she doesn’t want to tell you about, cause she doesn’t want to get you down. I would give her the benefit of the doubt and ask her to be a hostess or something, so that she’s still a part of your wedding, but if she doesn’t come through, it won’t ruin the day.

Post # 10
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know exactly how you feel. I had the same thing happen to me with one of my BM’s and it was via text too. I later then found out it was bc her boyfriend didnt want her to go..ugh!!!

Anywho… I am so sorry! I know how bad it sucks!

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