(Closed) Lost and Scattered

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Wow, you have a venue already! that’s great.

Have you thought about colors? theme? mood? I think that’d be the first place to start – maybe try to get your vision on paper. then once you have that, share it with your fiance – get his input. If its good to go, break it down and brainstorm how to best achieve that vision re: flowers, colors, photos/videos and etc… i find blogging helps me keep my thoughts organized too 🙂

 It is a whirlwind of commotion but it is great fun too! Good luck!


Post # 4
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I LOVED dress shopping! (For me and also the other dresses.) I picked out the bridesmaid dress, and used that to start a color palette. My venue also has really strong colors, so I took that into account too. It all is a domino from there, so you can choose flowers and decor after you know your colors and style. You’ll get overwhelmed at times, but it’s so fun!

Post # 7
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I definitely think having a theme makes it easier… it keeps your focus.  We didn’t really have a theme and I changed my mind on things so many times… I think if we decided on a particular motif to center everything around, decisions would have been much easier!

Perhaps tear out one of those checklists that come standard in all the wedding mags and see what "you should" be accomplishing.. and use the word "should" loosely because I only really did about half (if that) of the things on those lists… they are really comprehensive but at least you can get a grasp of a typical timeline of what needs to be done when (and dont feel like you have to do it all!  As they say, to get married all you need is an officiant, a bride, a groom, a witness, and a cake!)


Post # 8
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Sounds to me like you’re having trouble knowing what you want. I mean, how’s a girl supposed to know, when the possibilities are endless. right? I would spend some time gathering inspiration.  Style Me Pretty, Once Wed, The Knot, Snippet and Ink, and of course, Weddingbee feature stunning weddings in all themes, colors, sizes, and venue kinds. When I first picked a color scheme I thought I might like I looked at pictures and saved ones I liked to my computer, thought about what I didn’t like about the ones I didn’t, and gathered a pretty good file of what I might consider our wedding looking like. Then I used those pictures to create a feel or vision, rather than a theme. After that I think it does get easier! I am a huge proponent of checklists from wedding magazines and self-imposed deadlines! Good luck!

Post # 9
596 posts
Busy bee

the knot has a timeline feature that you can check out.  you don’t have to follow it EXACTLY (i know that feature stresses out some brides when it tells them that they are behind!) but it gives you a good idea of some of the things you can start with for your planning.

Post # 10
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree that the knot has a pretty extensive to do list that can be helpful.  But overwhelming.  With a new job, the holidays, and a new niece it has been really hectic.  When I signed up for the knot, it told me thta 35 items were overdue on my to do list!!

Like you Firefighter, I am excited to plan my wedding but a little scattered.  Though I dreamed of getting married to my Fiance I never dreamed of details, really.  My priority is for my guests to have a great time and to throw a great party.  I don’t have a theme per se, because it is just not me.  Since we are doing it in the fall in New Husband, we will end up having a lot of fall elements. 

So, last week, I made a monthly to do list based on the to do’s on the knot and things that I know I needed to do.  Ie, January, my goals are to pick colors, look at dresses, book hotel rooms and look at save the dates.  February is getting out save the dates and trying to decide on a dress.  March is to pick out bridesmaid dresses and order a dress.  You get the picture.  I think that with monthly goals it all seems a little bit easier to tackle.

Hope this helps!

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