Post # 1
im heartbroken bees, this morning me and DH lost our cat suddenly. What made it worse was that i probably walked past her three different times in the morning and didnt even notice anything was wrong. Before i left for work i walked over to where she was laying and went to pet her, and she didnt move. When i tried to pick her up thinking she was sleeping she was already rigor mortis. My heart broke instantly. I immediately called DH and told him to come home from work. He too was shocked and saddened as he was the one who brought her home from the shelter when we got her.
She was only 4 or 5 years old, and didnt show any signs of deteriorating health. Everything ive read says that when a younger cat dies it usually has to with an internal organ issue of some form of an aneurysm. Ive never dealt with a sudden loss of an animal. DH has already hinted at wanting to get a new kitten to fill the void, and even though i think its to soon, i cant blame him.
We didnt think taking her to the vet was going to do anything at that point considering the state of rigor, so we gently buried her in the back yard…
im now paranoid thinking it was something that might have been spread through our other dog and cat, and want to get them checked by the vet. Anyone think this is overzealous??…
Post # 2
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry! That is heartbreaking.
I don’t think it’s overzealous to get your other animals checked out at all, especially if it will give you some peace of mind.
Post # 3
No not paranoid . I am so sorry, how awful . But at least pusspuss must have gone suddenly and painlessly if she was lying in a peaceful sleep-like position .
Post # 4
Oh nooo, so sorry bee!! It’s likely not something that was spread, but I’d get the other animals checked out just for peace of mind.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss. At least you can have the comfort of knowing that she is at peace now. Whatever physical problem was bothering her is gone.
And no, it’s not overzealous. You absolutely did the right thing in getting your other pets checked out. In fact, I know it’s probably too late now since you buried her, but you could have asked the vet if you could bring her body for a necropsy, to better understand the problem since you have another cat plus the dog that could have been exposed to something.
I hope you will be okay and your pets too. Give them extra attention and love now that they will feel their companion’s absence.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry for your loss, bee. I know losing a furry family member is so tough, especially when it comes about in a sudden and unexpected manner.
If you feel like it will help you feel more at ease, calling the vet to explain what happened might help rule out any chances of some contagious illness spreading. You can never be too safe, and if you noticed her acting strangely (sluggish, breathing heavily, drinking tons of water or hiding for long periods of time) in the days or weeks leading up to her passing, I wouldn’t hesitate to call.We lost our 9 year old cat to sudden cardiac arrest a couple years ago, and the lack of warning signs or symptoms was one of the reasons it was so difficult to accept. Your kitty’s story sounds pretty similar to hers. I guess feline heart attacks aren’t really uncommon, but hearing the vet explain it really helped me, personally.
Post # 7
That’s awful bee! Hope you’re ok. Get your other babies checked out then give them extra snuggles.
Post # 8
I am so, so, so sorry. I know there’s nothing I can say to make things better but just know that we’re all thinking of you and your sweet kitty. Please don’t blame yourself — if there were no signs anything was wrong, you couldn’t have known.
Agree with PPs that it doesn’t hurt to get the other furbabies checked out.
Sending lots of hugs.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry. My heart is breaking for your family.
It’s always good to make sure your other pets are getting check ups, so if it’s been a moment, then I would go ahead and take them in to be safe.
My elderly dog passed last summer unexpectedly and it took a month for me to come home without crying when she wasn’t there. I also also sobbed at work a few times just thinking about it. Ugh, pets are such wonderful and loving companions, but it is hard when they pass on.
Seriously though, just thinking about it gets me so mad. I took her to 3 vets in the 6 months prior to her death because she had lumps on her skin. All said it was normal for a dog that age and to not worry about it and didn’t do any tests. Yes, it was cancer that killed her 🙁 grrr, a reminder that I need to be more assertive with medical professionals.
I love dogs, but am a one dog at a time sort of person, so after a month, I went to the shelter and adopted a puppy(I was nervous about adopting an older dog due to fostering human kids). A month was enough time for me, but only you can know if your ready to adopt again.
Another thing that helped me a lot was writing my dog a letter. I’m currently crying as I write this, but it really helped since her death was so sudden. I wrote about our first meeting, our lives together, fun things we did together, my live for her, etc. It was a 10 page, handwritten letter. Now I have a picture of my dog with the letter folded up behind it and it’s hanging on my wall. Idk if that would help you process the loss like it helped me.
I’m just so sorry that your cat passed.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry, how devastating. It sounds very sudden and like there was nothing anyone could have done. Poor kitty, and poor you.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry!!! I lost my most favorite amazing cat very suddenly a couple years ago, and it was really devastating. Big hugs to you. After a while, the happy memories will overpower the sadness, but it does take time.
I don’t think it’s a bad idea to get your other animals checked out. Maybe call and ask to talk to the vet first to see if they agree? The peace of mind would probably be worth it. Xox
(I didn’t do the above because my little guy got hit by a car 😥 I wanted to keep him inside once he started getting out of the fence, but we had a bit of marital discord on that subject… But if he had died suddenly at home, I’d definitely call the vet to get their advice and probably take the critters in.)
Post # 12
So sorry bee! Send love and light your way! Don’t beat yourself up, but give yourself time to grieve. I’m sure your kitty had a very happy life, and one day you’ll be able to provide the same for another.
Post # 13
I’m so so sorry that you just lost your kitty. That’s the hardest part of pet parenting. If getting your other pets checked out would give you peace of mind, then by all means do what will help you both feel better. I’m sure that they are not in any danger though.
As for a kitten, there is no right answer for when you should feel ready for another new furry friend. I lost my cat suddenly almost two years ago to liver failure and I couldn’t think of adopting another cat without getting emotional until DH and I adopted a kitten together this past February. My mom offered me a kitten right after he passed and I just wasn’t ready. If you feel like it might lift your spirits to add an exuberant kitten to your family, however, go for it!
Im sending you lots of healing thoughts ❤️