Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
Not my diamond – my grandma’s.
She and grandpa were on a trip in a city far from home recently, and she lost the diamond out of her wedding ring. The diamond she’s had for 60 years. She thinks she whacked her hand while getting off a bus or something and knocked it loose. Grandma and grandpa called the bus company, the taxi they took, and a train they’d ridden on… no sign of it. She knows she lost it on the trip because she remembers polishing it up while traveling.
She was so sad about it, she could barely talk about it without getting watery eyes.
That ring’s been on her hand since she was 20 or so. It’s so well-worn that the band has nearly fused to the e-ring. It’s a beautiful symbol of my grandparents’ long and happy marriage. To see her without her ring on was so strange.
Grandma was thinking of just having the crown removed so that she could wear the bands without the diamond. To her, it just wouldn’t be the same to buy a new one…
What would you do if you lost your life-long diamond? Would you buy a new diamond?
I think I’d buy a new stone at this point in my life – I haven’t had the ring that long and buying a new stone wouldn’t be a big deal, emotionally, to me. My ring’s insurance would cover the cost. I’d mostly be sad that I’d lost it – I hate losing stuff. My mom bought a new stone for hers years ago too. But if it’d been many many years… I don’t know what I’d do.
Post # 3
That’s horrible! I feel so bad for your grandma. I guess I’m in the same boat as you. If it happened to me today, I’d probably get a new stone. But if it happened to me much later into my marriage, I don’t know what I would do. I think the ring would have so much more meaning and memories then, that I would consider it almost irreplaceable.
Post # 4
That’s so sad! I don’t know if I could bear to put a new stone in! But I don’t think I could bear not wearing it!
Post # 5
I don’t know what I would do either! I would be devastated 🙁
I wear my grandmother’s engagement ring on my right hand – it is just a very small diamond (they were both immigrant farmers and got engaged/ married right after my grandfather got back from WWII), and I know if I lost HER diamond I wouldn’t know what to do. I think I would have a harder time losing her diamond than one of mine at this point. To me her ring represents the 50 years she and my grandfather were married and all they went through. And although my rings represent my committment to my husband and our marriage, I think that being married less than a year, it would be somehow easier to replace one of mine. (if that makes any sense)
Post # 6
I’d be sad, too. It’s like wearing through your teddy bear you’ve had as a child.
That being said, I try to look at things like “things” in general and I’d replace it and have my husband give it to me or use it as a chance to get something that was more “me” at that point in my life. Who knows what I’ll want in 50 years. I mean it’s not like you can get the exact same stone (particularly mine, it’s a square cushion and they usually aren’t square). My mom has had her ring for 25 years and she’s had to replace a few diamonds. I mean, it happens. It sucks, though, big time. And I hate losing anything, right down to hair pins and mascara or more recently, my new Tide pen. Grr.
With about 2 dozen stones in my engagement and wedding bands, I’ve just come to the reality that at some point in my life, I likely WILL lose a piece of it.
Post # 7
Ohhh….your poor Grandma!! I would be heartbroken! MAYBE some sort of diamond miracle will happen, and one of the people she contacted will call her to say they’ve found it! I know….it’s a long shot…but I really hope that that’s what happens!! I worry about that happening too! In fact, the other day I was taking off my rings before showering and was stupidly standing in front of the bathroom sink, which happens to have an open drain…and lost my grip on my e-ring…it fell into the sink and sort of circled around…LUCKILY I somehow mangaged to grab it before it slipped down the drain…THANK GOD! I would have been devastated if I had lost it. I am so sorry for your grandma…and again, I’m keeping my fingers crossed that maybe somre sort of miracle will happen for her. She sounds lovely!
Post # 8
I would be devasted. Fiance wants to get a whole new ring when we get married. He said this one was just to go through the ritual of asking for me to marry him. However, I love my ring and have decided, we are NOT getting an entire new one. I will add to this one. I love the solitaire, I love the princess cut and I love the tiffany setting. It has a flaw in it which he hates but to me is what makes it MY diamond. I told him years down the line we could upgrade to a better and bigger diamond, but we’re not going to sweat it right now. I feel like upgrading the diamond is ok as long as iget to keep some part of what he originally gave me. Make sense?
Post # 9
I can’t vote because I honestly don’t know what I would do! I think I would replace the stone though. At this point, I would replace it for the same stone cut, color, etc. In five years, would I do the same? Probably? Though I might upgrade a hair. I just can’t see myself getting a huge diamond to replace the one that my Fiance so carefully picked out.
PS I lost the pearl necklace that my parents gave me for my 21st birthday. I think the clasp was loose. When I got to work it was gone. Unfortunately I take public transportation so there is little to no chance it will be found… I am heartbroken over it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
@MayBee – me too! I keep praying that the bus driver will call and be honest and say he found it jammed under a rubber mat, or SOMETHING.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
@Miss Hot Sauce – hah, mine has a little feather flaw in it too (only visible from the back, which you can’t see in the setting). And Mr. MJ has offered to get a different one. but this one’s MINE! I love MINE!
Post # 12
Consider replacing it with a CZ, that way you won’t be so bummed if you lose it in the future and nobody will be able to tell anyway.
Post # 13
Ahh your poor grandma! I have to admit, I LOVE LOVE LOVE big flashy jewelry and if I lost my diamond and got that check from the insurance company I would probably upgrade since they cover the appraisal value of my ring/diamond, not what we actually paid so I would have a little extra money to play with. I have to say, though, I would be heartbroken.
Post # 14
This is such a tough call….your poor grandma!!! My fiance gave me his great-grandma’s ring which is at least 80 years old. I’m terrified that something will happen to it and I will feel absolutely terrible. While I love it and the story behind it I’m kind of looking forward to the day a few years from now when he promised me he would be me a ring of my own just so I can “retire” his ggma’s ring and not have to worry about losing it or the stone.
Post # 15
Oh, your poor Grandma! i could only imagine how heartbreaking that would be! I don’t even know that I could replace my diamond in my ring if somthing happened to it and I’ve only had it about four years! It has a visible inclusion and to be honest, everytime I get it cleaned I look for it to make sure it’s still mine! For some reason, it makes it more special to me. (Weird right?)
I don’t know what I would do in her shoes. But if she thinks she’d feel better to have it made into just bands she could do that or while it’s not nearly the same, maybe something very similiar to the diamond she had could be put in.
Post # 16
How sad! I’d be devastated. I’ve actually had two separate dreams that I lost my diamond. So now I wake up in the middle of the night and I feel my ring to make sure my diamond is still there!