- 4 years ago
Regular bee gone anon since my store is fairly recognizable.
This year has been utter hell.
We postponed our wedding last year and so glad we did. My father died 3 weeks before our original wedding day (cancer) in February. My God father died the following morning (my mom’s brother), and my paternal grandfather 3 months later.
Now 3 weeks before our wedding, my father in law passed away. Everyone was blindsided.
We can’t postpone at this point. This big wedding was my FI’s dream. Mother-In-Law agrees we should keep moving forward, and so we are.
Our wedding day was already difficult with so many loss, and now my Father-In-Law passing is just… unimaginable.
My question is really petty, but I’m so confused what the right thing to do is. I had a “in memory of” section on our wedding programs. I reprinted all of those and put FIL’s name in the memorial section. This is naturally hard for my Fiance to see, but we won’t really see them on the wedding day.
I was also doing a memorial table at the reception. Original plan was photos on a table but since his dad passed, I think a photo of his dad would be too much. Far too raw still. I’d like to do glass vases wrapped in vellum with a candle. Like these:
My Fiance is naturally struggling with his dad’s passing and having his name on a memorial candle is hard. I absolutely understand that. I couldn’t imagine going to my wedding 3 weeks after my dad died. But it is important to me, and my step mom, to have something for my dad and those that passed this year.
Am I being hurtful by wanting this? Should I just take out the memorial? Either I hurt my husband to be or my step mom. I don’t want to do either.
I just don’t know what to do. If we hadn’t JUST paid our final deposits, I would have cancelled the wedding and eloped.
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