Post # 1
A few yrs ago this woman who was a friend of the family told me on the first day meeting me that she wants to steal my family from me (husband and our 2 daughters). That didn’t fly well with me and told everyone that I never want to see or hear her name again. She went back to CA (i live in PA) and a few months later I find emails that were shared between her and my husband that were pretty sexual. I comfronted him about it and asssured me it will never happen again. A few days ago I see that he has been texting someone from CA. I put 2 and 2 together and realized he has been texting her and emailing eachother on a different email address. At this point I don’t want to know if they were sexting…I don’t think I could handle it. Again he told me he would never contact her again. I told him the stuff she was saying to me and told it he thought it never would have gone that far and they are just friends. Even though I told him she is a family reckor (almost broke up a friend of mine and her husband).
I don’t know what to do. He went behind my back know how I felt about this person. I don’t think they physically did anything (or at least I don’t want to know). Everytime his phone goes off I wonder if it’s her. When he is by himself how so I know he’s not talking to her. He harldy spends time with me. He is laways on the computer playing online games (WoW).But when I am not around he talks to her on the phone for hours.
I don’t know if I can trust him. With no trust there is no relationship. Like I said we have 2 daughters together. I don’t know what to do…help plz.
Post # 3
I dont have much advice in what you should do. Maybe seek out a professional, a counselor maybe…someone that will be able to give you real advice on how to handle that situation and possibly save your marriage.
on a side note.. people in this world (possibly that women) are crazy.. i have read some intense stories about things like this actually happening. I think you need to think about your kids and what is best for you and them.
Post # 5
The more I think about this, the madder I get. Why in the h*** would you allow your husband and this woman to continue to carry on like this? Once is bad enough and grounds for a D I V O R C E, but twice having to ask it stop??? Really???
Cut this man loose. He is a bonafied PIG!!! You don’t want your daughters being taught that it is okay for men to treat women with such disrespect.
Post # 6
you asked him once, and he promised he would stop. but then you asked him again, so obviously, he broke his promise. i think that shows you right there how much he actually respects you. this “husband” of yours isn’t worth the dirt you’re walking on, and you’re letting him get away with it. as long as he knows you’re not going to do anything about it, he’s going to continue to do it! i know you have two daughters with him, but do you want your daughters to grow up thinking this is what a normal relationship is? that it’s ok for their boyfriend/husband to walk all over them? you have to leave, for your daughters. you deserve someone who you can trust and will respect you. and you will be happier, and a better mother, for it.
Post # 7
What’s your relationship with your husband like in general? Are you two happy together?
Having children complicates everything but sometimes (and I’m not saying that’s the case here) walking away from a bad situation is the best thing for everyone involved. Do you think you could rebuild your relationship with your husband and trust him again?
I know you’re probably worried about upsetting your daughters and changing their family situation but as a child of divorced parents myself, although the breakup was upsetting that’s the best thing that could have happened. Like someone said earlier, try to focus on what’s best for you and your daughters.
All the best.