(Closed) Lost intrest in own wedding

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s that strange. Either you have the wedding planning gene or you don’t!

I mean, really, it’s just one day. I’m enjoying planning because I can’t wait to see everyone! But, I do realise that it’s just a day. And at the end, it only matters that I marry my Fiance.

Have you considered eloping or doing something that might be more meaningful to you?

Post # 4
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Eh, I don’t really have interest in planning either. But mine sounds a little different, because I care how things turn out. Like my dress, and I want it to be pretty. But I also want to be done with it. I don’t think you’re odd for having no interest though. Why waste so much energy in that if you don’t want to? 🙂

Post # 6
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I felt the same way at the beginning of our planning.  I was able to take a break for a few weeks and when I went back to planning, it was a lot better.  Planning was really overwhelming for me, but once I began to ask for help and we started to actually solidify our plans, it was a lot better.  You still have time (if your date is correct) – I’d take a few months break and just enjoy being engaged.  Once you go back to planning, with a fresh head, it should be better.  Best of luck!

Post # 8
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1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Planning is definitely overwhelming.  Like rachaelrobin said, sometimes taking a break is a good idea.  I know I got a bit burnt out at first, but I got my main things booked (ceremony and reception venues, photographer, DJ and limo) and then stopped for a bit.  Now I am getting back into it again, and it is much better!  It’s ok to feel burnt out.  Take some time for yourself, and you should feel better!  

Post # 9
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2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I totally relate. It’s hard as heck to care about something that is more than a year away. Just relax and take a few months off. You don’t have to do anything right now. As the date gets closer, you might start to care more… or you might not. Go with the flow and be a low-key bride. In some ways it’s good not to care. 

“What flowers do you want?” 

“Um… orange ones? I don’t care.”

Boom! You just saved $500!

Put your energy into the things you really care about, like your relationship. This is not a bad thing, lady! 

Post # 10
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6 posts
Newbee

I think you should just take a break. You have lots of time, come back after you recharged.

Post # 12
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ignore them!! People are curious, but that doesn’t mean you have to oblige.  Seriously, take a few weeks off.  Don.t talk about the wedding, don’t look at wedding blogs (keep coming on the bee if you want!), don’t read the magazines – just focus on relaxing and enjoying yourself.  If someone asks about the plans just tell them that they are progressing, no need to tell them details.  For your own piece of mind, take a small break.  You deserve to enjoy this time  – it will get better for you, I just hope that you trust yourself and your Fiance to allow yourself to do so.

Honestly, I know exactly what you are going through.  I did not have my wedding planned out from when I was little.  It is a hard and really overwhelming process.  I was lucky to have a lot of help from my Darling Husband (then FI) – it sounds like your Fiance is willing to help also, utilize him and your other resources, when you decide to go back to planning.  Best of luck.

Post # 14
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have a lot of friends who have gotten all dressed up, brought a pro-photographer and their parents to SF City Hall (which is gorgeous!) and gotten married there. They get the pictures, the family, then they go out to a GREAT lunch at a really nice restaurant… Followed by an amazing honeymoon. I don’t think any of them regret it.

(And I have a best friend from high school that eloped with her husband almost 10 years ago. They had just driven down to San Antonio and stayed in a nice hotel for the weekend. Two kids and many years later, she has no regrets!)

Post # 16
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@GaN12: Just a quick question.. is this solely wedding related? Do you have opinions/reactions to things besides your wedding? The only reason I ask is that you seem really uninterested and maybe a little depressed 🙁 I don’t want to jump to conclusions, because I don’t think every girl has to care a lick about her wedding. But when you say no reaction it just gets me curious about other areas in your life. I’m sure you care about something else…. I’m just checking in! 🙂

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