Post # 1
So I decided to change the venue of my wedding a while back. We had put a $900 deposit down on a tent about 3 weeks before I changed my mind. I knew when I changed the venue that I might be risking the deposit, but I was hoping that because it was almost a full YEAR before the wedding that the tent company would give me my money back. Part of the reason I changed my mind was because I was getting no return phone calls from them and much of the paperwork they were supposed to send me never arrived. When they refused to give the deposit back, I disputed the charge on the credit card I used but they refused to refund my money as well. Part of me knows that this sort of thing happens all the time and I’m not the first person to lose a deposit, but I am kicking myself for putting down that deposit because I was in such a rush to find a place. Now we are out $900 and are going to have to cut costs somewhere else to make up for that money. Has anyone else had an experience like this? I am just feeling awful about it.
Post # 3
I’m sorry, that’s a lot of money to lose. Unfortunately deposits generally aren’t refundable. I’m sorry you had to learn that the hard way!
Post # 4
I lost $1600! We went to a tasting at our all-inclusive venue and just absolutely hated the food, and then, after a long and painful discussion, realized that the original venue didn’t excite us or really fit our vision to begin with. We, too, had been in such a rush to book that we hadn’t completely thought things through, and we decided that we would rather lose our deposit – which was painful for us, we are not well off – rather than throw good money after bad.
I beat myself up like crazy for putting down a deposit before tasting the food, but the place had a stellar reputation and more importantly we had also sampled food at their on-property bakery and it was absolutely delicious. I’m not sure why the actual catered food was such a disaster, but we have a wonderful venue and caterer now that we value all the more. I’m sorry this happened to you!
Post # 5
ouch, that’s too bad. wedding budgets are tight.
suggestion: does the tent company offer other rentals? maybe you could use your deposit on other wedding products in their store? as a last resort, is there any way that the tent company would give you a store credit for a future rental? sometimes with a store credit, you can sell it to another local bride for a discounted pricel that way you may be able to recoup some of your deposit. i know it’s upsetting but if you do attempt this route, go into the business with a very forgiving attitude, letting them know that you would still like to do some business with them. everyone stays positive and the business doesn’t feel rejected. i’ve done this, and it works!
you have nothing to lose. good luck
Post # 6
@tonights: Thank you! I keep telling myself that if I had it to do over and KNEW I was going to lose the deposit, I still would have changed the venue. I guess it’s a hard lesson learned! I’m sorry you had such a bad experience and lost so much money yourself and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
Post # 7
I had to cancel my destination wedding because of FI’s parents and while I was able to get some of my deposits back, I’m still out about $1100. His parents are supposed to pay me back but it’s been almost a year since we changed our plans and I’ve seen zero dollars and zero cents. I have to assume I’ll never see that money since they haven’t mentioned anything about it.
Post # 8
@WestieGirl: Oh, that’s awful! So sorry to hear that! 🙁
Post # 9
I feel for all you brides. I was thinking of changing my venue to bc I don’t think we will have enough guests to fill the ballroom and the cost of draping and uplighting such a large space may not be worth it. However, the deposit was $2k so I’m thinking of keeping the venue and just seeing if they can partition the room into two: one a cocktail room and the other the reception. I hope it works. Otherwise I have to start looking for other venues too. =(
Post # 10
dont feel bad or beat yourself up. it happened to us too. a year before the wedding i cancelled because i had found that we fell in love with a place that was going to be way too expensive for us. they allowed me out of the contract pending the room was rebooked with a wedding higher than ours. it booked in two weeks however they will not give me the deposit back, just state they were nice enough to let us out of the contract. UGGG!!!