- 3 years ago
I dont really know what to do ! I had 5 bridesmaids including my 2 MHO . One of my MHO is married, lives out of town, has a children with down syndrome , and her financial situation is not the best . However she is very happy to be my matron of honor and help me ( mostly moral support ) from far away or when I go visit her. My second MHO , was the person who was throwing me a bachelorette party, a very good friend of mine, but unfortunally we had an argument which end it up destroying our friendship. She addmited the argument was mostly her fault, I still thinking it was miscomunication from both sides. Since our conversation was going on circles, and I wanted just to forget about it trying to skip more drama and probably hurtful words , I told her I am not in the place to have any more drama in my life and If she wants to keep my friendship she should step up and forget about the argument and move on. Thas when she said that she doenst feel that she needs to fake about our friendship and basically she can’t fake being a Maid/Matron of Honor, to which I told her that she needs to forget about my wedding and focus on what this friendship is about it. I think she took it way to far and she end it up being mad at me. I dont think If she recognized it was mostly her fault to act all crazy and started the argument then I should be begging hfor her forgiveness…specially since I said lets forget about it ! I moved on and was waiting for her to say ” hey , lets move on ” but instead she got all pissed. I dont think I was wrong telling her , I will leave all this argument on you , if you decide to talk to me then talk to me , if you decide to be my friend, then be my friend , but at this point of my life I am trying to be supportive to my fiance in a very taugh moment of his life , and I dont have energy to deal with a stupid argument .
Now , I dont care about a bachelorette party or all the festivities that a bride can have. Of my bridesmaids is organizing my shower , because my mom is not able to do it since she is out of the country. My fiance told me to pick somebody else as my MHO and he will pay for my bachelorette party, which is pretty sweet from him , he is really the best guy on earth ! but I dont know who to pick !! My bridemaid whos doing the shower is his older sister, and my other bridemaid is his younger sister and the other bridemaid is one of my very good friend. The problem with the last one is that she is very introverted person , and I dont know if she would like to a bachelorette party by herself. I mean I dont really care about where and how this bachelorette party will be , but my fiancee said that he wanted me to experience that , that he wants me to enjoy what any other bride would love to.
What should I do ??