(Closed) Lost my MOH

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You definitely did the right thing.. so don’t even feel bad about “losing the MOH”… they’re the ones who lost.  This such a tough situation, but I’m so glad that you are protecting your child.  There is a no way a 2yr old can make up something like that.  I hope that your wedding is beautiful, no matter what you decide to do!!

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

thank you – thank you for listening to your child – i hope that he hadnt touched her but the what if is too great, you did the right thing

im sorry it has affected your famiily but its understandable – sleep well at night knowning your child is safe *hugs*

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so sorry for what you are going through. You absolutely did the right thing. As a mother your sister should understand that, BUT as the mother of your nephew she may not want to believe sometihng so terrible about her own child. Dont worry about her being(or not being) your Maid/Matron of Honor. 100% of your focus right now should be trying to undo to possible damage that may have been done to your little girl.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am so so sorry about what you are going through.  It is beyond awful.  I know you were told that your daughter’s testimony wouldn’t stand up in court.  But that isn’t true.  It really depends on the details of the case.  I urge you to contact the police.  The DA’s office can decide if they can prosecute your nephew or not.  It’s worth a try though.  Maybe there are some legal bees that can give you good advice on that front.  

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@browniebride: I applaud you for being such an awesome mom. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes so overcome by your strength, standing up for what is right, for the sake of your child. You rock! I’m sorry that in order to protect your child, you are having to deal with family members that do not understand. I hope that in time, they will. Good for you for breaking the silence and letting your daughter’s voice be heard. Sending you, your daughter, and your fiance many blessings.

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so, very sorry that you and your daughter are going through this.  I have witnessed this particular situation so many times, and it is truly heartbreaking that nobody ever wants to believe the victim.

My cousin’s father went to prison for molesting children when she was two.  When she was six, he got released.  My aunt allowed her daughter to go spend the night with her father, the convicted child molestor.  When my cousin accused him of molesting her, nobody in the family believed her! 

Years later, there was a death in their family and I attended the funeral.  The child molestor was there.  Afterwards, the family went to the home of the child molestor and his mother.  One of his cousins was there with her two small daughters.  She allowed them to go in a back bedroom with “Uncle _____” and even told them they could stay the night with him while she went back to her hotel!

If I were you, I would just give up any hope of having my sister in my wedding.  She is not going to come and have everything be amicable unless you apologize for your daughter getting molested.  Which, I hope you would NEVER do!  Just cut your ties for the sake of your daughter, if nothing else.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@browniebride: Please, I beg you – file a police report. Even if they do not pursue it it’s good to have it on record so if he ever tries something like this again with another child they have a record that he has done this in the past, making them more likely to file charges. For the safety of other children, please file a report.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Agree that there’s no way a two year old would make that up – her little mind doesn’t even think of things like that yet. Children don’t really form the ability to lie until they hit preschool age.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@browniebride: I am sorry that this occurred, you are torn between what your daughter has stated and repeated numerous times and than you have your sister.  I am glad you believed your daughter and did not take it lightly. 

 

Post # 28
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry that your daughter and you are going through this. I think that you are right to trust your instincts and your daughter. You are in my prayers.

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@browniebride: I think you are a responsible parent and really looking out for your child. You did absolutely nothing wrong & I’m afraid the rest of the family will find this out when your nephew acts on his urges again. He’s sick & he needs help. On a side note, a polygraph test won’t do any good – they are extremely inaccurate. If any of the family members do believe you, I would urge them to make careful notes about the nephew’s behavior around children. Ah, and also, when the nephew will be charged do not alert the rest of the family because he might have the change to destroy evidence (child pornography, etc.).

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