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posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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3446 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I don’t really know what to say at all, but felt like I had to at least try for a fellow Dallas girl, haha 🙂 

I hate the idea of that 40-6 thing!  I think that sucks and you should do anything to avoid it. I also don’t see why you need to do the whole minister and ceremony thing. I know your mom cares, but it’s your wedding not hers, and really, does it matter what title the person performing it holds?

I’m sorry I don’t have more advice. But if I was you, this is what I’d do: 

I would have a very small ceremony. Y’alls parents and kids. Perhaps a lifelong friend. Thats it. It’ll be intimate and include the people closest to you. Follow that with your 40-6 ratio reception at a steak house. Then, also hold a reception in Georgia. That way the important people see the wedding, and everyone gets to celebrate.

Good luck, bee! Your love story is amazing. Congratulations on rekindling that flame, and remember that your love is the important thing here. 🙂

Post # 3
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Among people I know this is often solved by turning to a close friend or family member who has a nice large backyard and having a simple but cute backyard wedding.  Your local minister will go to you. You can do the same thi g with a beautifully landscaped park.  You can make it family only and then there’s a rhyme and reason for why this or that person got cut from the list.  It’s all fair. If you want it indoors ask your family member with the strongest opinions to do the most work and do some calling and info gathering for you.  They should be offering already.

Post # 4
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39 posts
Newbee

Venting is good, that’s what we’re here for!

Can you afford to hire a wedding planner? Because if you’re having so much anxiety already, I’d probably recommend it. I planned my wedding in five months and it was one of the most stressful times of my life. It was like having another full time job. And I was very organized. I had excel files, venue diagrams, inspiration boards, etc. 

You mentioned you have been married before. Was that one less pressure? What’s different now? Maybe now you have more responsibilities, more people counting on you, and people aren’t as willing to make this time all about you. But it really should be.

Post # 5
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419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Muhlhauser Barn

Ideally wedding planning should be fun but it always ends up being stressful.  I’m sorry you’re going through such a hard time.  I like the idea of something small in both areas, that way everyone gets to celebrate 🙂  Money may be an issue though and if thats the case then Im sorry I dont know any more adivce!  Venting is ok! That is what we Bee’s are here for!

Post # 6
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273 posts
Helper bee

I love your story! My Darling Husband and I reunited too but only after 3 years apart. I can empathize with your distress,  wedding planning is stressful under any circumstances but the last year of nursing school is grueling. I love the idea of a casual backyard wedding, if that’s something you’re into. I’ve been to several beautiful back yard weddings. Another idea is a package at a local bed and breakfast in your area. That’s what Darling Husband and I were originally planning. There were numerous inns and B&Bs that offered elopement packages, most of them with the option to add up to 10 or 20 guests. Some of them offer a meal but almost all offer cake, flowers, and a champagne toast. We ended up renting the whole B&B for a full on wedding but having an elopement there would have been equally beautiful with much, much less stress

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